Forum etiquette.

At the risk of perpetuating this I have to stick up for myself- sorry!

granbunny I think you were being a little paranoid to assume I was referring to you (grammar!!). I certainly wasn't! I was making a general point about etiquette on this forum. Now, I have taken offence - which is something I rarely do. .

To me, gransnet is a community like many others, made up of wise, kind, loving, thoughtful and helpful people who also happen to be a mix of ardent right wingers, trendy lefties, feminists, traditionalists, dog lovers and haters, cat lovers and haters, peacemakers, stirrers, vociferous people and more reserved people (have I offended everyone yet?) When I go to the shops in my village I avoid the people I don't want to speak to - simples ([jeni])

If I wasn't welcoming enough or have done anything to offend you, I apologise but maybe this is not the right forum for you if we make you so cross.

I am just picking up on the PMing comments earlier and I can say that I PM people on subjects that are of a personal nature who wants to read about what the surgeon did when I had my operation all to intimate for posting and I PM a member because she used to live not far from me on The Wirral and we know a lot of places of mutual interest so I think the PM option is a good tool to use

It's not that kind of pm-ing I mean glamma. I like friendly pm s.

Glass sometimes pm's me. [glow!]

granbunny was fairly outspoken when she first came on to GN and was definitely picked on because of it. She was reported three times I seem to remember.

At the time I didn't like the way certain of us moved to, I suppose you could say, maintain the status quo by preventing granbunny from saying what she thought, at least some of which I for one agreed with.

I've never really considered myself to be wise, kind, loving, thoughtful and helpful (sounds exhausting). If I was going to agree to take on those virtues I'd need something a bit more feisty as well to balance out my character .

Finally, this IS the right forum for granbunny even if she is feeling cross.

Is it time to perhaps put a close to this thread?

petallus

greatnan my comment about the use of pm was mainly referring to how it was used. For example "I've been away, what's been going on?" and someone will reply "will pm you". Hope that clears it up, obviously some things should be discussed privately.

None of Granbunny's posts were deleted though. So GNHQ couldn't have thought they were so bad.

I think they did have a word, though.....

Yes. Supportive, I've no doubt.

There was nothing wrong with her posts. She was being tentative. Like, dipping your toe in before taking the plunge.

How did we get back onto this? and me with a dinner to cook!

Whatever you say, imjingl

If they went in for having a word with anybody, they would have done so with me by now, and they haven't.

which is odd in itself......... [thoughtful] [amazed]

GO AND COOK THE DINNER, jings!

If you see me back on here today, feel free to shoot.

Not Greatnan though. She would be too good a shot.

The one thing I try to remember is that without face to face contact, we never know how another personn is feeling when (s)he posts. Maybe putting on a brave face, maybe very shy but trying to be more outgoing, maybe feeling unsure about revealing personal feelings which have been bottled up? I just know that sometimes I can feel uplifted, comforted or amused and at other times I can feel put down (e.g. when comment is completely ignored, going down like the proverbial lead balloon)and left out.
Just a thought.

gracesmum Very true.

maybe this is not the right forum for you ...shakes head.
fairly outspoken ....raises eyebrows. (you should hear me when i am outspoken )
Finally, this IS the right forum for granbunny even if she is feeling cross. - thank you, petallus
None of Granbunny's posts were deleted though ...is that so? i don't know. i do know that the troll-calling was removed...shame really, the nasty posts should have been left there for all to see. and the ones who followed from thread to thread. its hard to support a claim of having been unfairly treated when the evidence has been removed!
anagram and jingl- i had two messages from gn - one telling me i'd been reported and one recognising that 'something nasty was going on'. i understood that 'words' were said to others...

I think those of you who keep mentioning that granbunny was "picked on" when she first began to post should know that this dredging up of past mistakes and dwelling upon them is upsetting some of the people concerned who are sorry for any misjudgements they may have made and for anything they said that was upsetting to granbunny. As someone who stood up for granbunny at the time (though I thought she came over as a bit abrupt too, but were all different so what the heck), I'd like to ask you in strong terms to PLEASE DROP IT for kindness' sake!

With thanks in anticipation.

cross post with yours, granbunny. I know you felt bad about it and I'm sorry for that.

I read the posts and was unsure of what granbunny wrote to be reported and agree with jingle.

I might take this opportunity to add that there are a few posters that often say that a subject is codswallop etc if they don't agree, find it matches their beliefs, or whatever. I have also seen a new poster told off for a comment and felt unhappy about this and I have not seen that person post since.

If you have no interest or belief in a thread why does everyone else have to be told, is it stop any more discussion? Yes Gransnet is cliquey and it has been a shame to see so many posters cease writing comments!!!

Oh dear, I am feeling a little uncomfortable. This is the first time I have felt like this on GN

I'm with you totally harrigan ...I too have been made to fell very uncomfortable by some of the comments on this thread.

Infact have just PM'd someone I trust, to ask what has been going on while I've been away.

bagitha's comment makes perfect sense. I believe that it's time to close this thread and make room for fresh debate on a matter that uplifts, as opposed to downcasts.