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Greatnan Sat 21-Apr-12 08:14:10

I think forum etiquette is no more than normal good manners. I would not correct someone's grammar if I were speaking to them in person, and I don't correct any member's grammar, spelling or punctuation on forums.
Not easy for a pedantic former English teacher!

I can ignore personal insults (I think they say more about the poster than about me) but I think they are usually considered to be in breach of forum etiquette.

petallus Tue 24-Apr-12 07:12:07

There is no-one on GN that 'sticks the slim and sharpened knife in wherever they can' (though that is very poetically put).

Why don't those people who don't want this thread to continue absent themselves and anybody who feels the need to continue can do so and then I'm sure eventually it will die a natural death.

Greatnan Tue 24-Apr-12 08:29:29

I am puzzled. I have looked at my original post and it appears that nobody has actually disagreed with it - so why has it generated so many replies?
It is snowing heavily here, but I am off to spend a few days with a dear friend and I hope everyone feels as cheerful as I do this morning.

jeni Tue 24-Apr-12 08:38:04

Morning. I'm off to work in 10mins, catch up with you all later.
Oh, no dragon!sad

dorsetpennt Tue 24-Apr-12 09:13:40

Greatnan did you want someone to disagree with you ? smile. I too have work to go to - after a weeks leave and rain and/or hail everyday

JessM Tue 24-Apr-12 09:14:21

Mmm greatnan group dynamics! When new groups form there is usually a period of conflict before the group real gels.
This often repeats itself when groups expand. This has happened several times since I have been a member of GN. It will, no doubt, happen again. Could be described as the group equivalent of the "terrible twos" I guess. There has actually been quite a long period without a turbulent few days I think, so probably overdue.
Trying to do a spot of work here in NZ, while DS makes some bad backs better. Handsome brindled mastiff nudging my elbow now and again. We both need some dinner soon.

Butternut Tue 24-Apr-12 09:34:21

Well observed, Jess.

I thought you were winging your way back - still in NZ obviously. Continue to enjoy. smile

gracesmum Tue 24-Apr-12 09:49:33

I shouldn't rise to this, but stupidly can't resist it - reading threads - do you really think gb that some people spend all day doing nowt else? If you look at when I posted my plea for sanity and calmm, it was quite late - I too had been out until then /unable to get on line etc. It just feels we are all like a terrier with a bone and can't let it go. What was it all about originally anyway? Does anybody remember (I know greatnan made a comment, but was this in response to a real or misunderstood insult or incident of tactlessness?) and ultimately - does it still matter? There is such a thing as nursing one's wrath to keep it warm - I just think we should let it cool down.

imjingl Tue 24-Apr-12 09:59:10

granbunny I agree with you that you were unfairly treated when you first posted on here. The headless chicken act didn't take long to kick in. It was a bit ridiculous.

On the other hand your posts were, if I remember rightly, a little bit combative. Maybe, just a bit, intentionally so.

So, it was six of one, half a dozen of the other. You have been apologised to. Can't it be left now?

petallus Tue 24-Apr-12 14:13:12

Agree one hundred percent with imjingle

Greatnan Tue 24-Apr-12 15:20:56

I posted as I did because I did not want to see anybody being embarrassed by having their spelling, grammar or punctuation corrected. Some people who are not used to forums apparently do not realise that this is not done.
It was not aimed at anybody in particular, just an attempt to make everybody feel comfortable when posting.
No good deed goes unpunished!

POGS Wed 25-Apr-12 16:11:29

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POGS Wed 25-Apr-12 17:01:56

Oh dear,

I have only just started to use a computer and my daughter suggested to join gransnet. I have only just realised I can view past threads, is that what they are called. I obviously went against forum etiquette 11.4.12 'If you were Prime Minister'. and I apologised at the time. However given the date, 21.4.12 and the subject here I am wondering if infact I am the cause of this topic.

I did not even know you could send private messages until now and I have become quite paranoid members are giving each other a nod and a wink about the person/persons this thread is about. I feel very sorry reading this thread and if I am in the frame then I am very concerned.

I like to debate and I thought I could meet interesting people, with different views, who would interact intelligently and not confrontationally. I still beleive this is the case but I am confused with all of this!. Can I refer greatnan to 'This made me laugh' 13.2.12. I only want to be able to join in the fun, kindness and most certainly the 'hot debates'.

Greatnan Wed 25-Apr-12 17:06:09

POGS - I have replied to you on 'This made me laugh'.
Can I say again that my original post was not intended to refer to any person in particular - I had noticed one or two instances on this and other forums that I use that people who are new to all this, probably thinking they are just being helpful, have corrected spelling or grammar mistakes.
I hope my intentions are now crystal clear and nobody thinks I was 'getting at them'
I am as amazed as anyone else at what ensued, but I don't think I can be held responsible for it!

Anagram Wed 25-Apr-12 17:10:05

I think a slight episode of mass paranoia ensued! confused

imjingl Wed 25-Apr-12 17:32:15

And how is it going to help the forum if everyone pops up and says "oh, was it me? I''m really sorry". hmm

Do we all, as older people, think that everything is always about us? confused

petallus Wed 25-Apr-12 18:31:21

I didn't think it was about me though I suppose I did put in my two pen'orth.

(is that right pen'orth or is it 'penn'orth?)

Anagram Wed 25-Apr-12 18:36:07

Don't think we're allowed to say....wink

granbunny Wed 25-Apr-12 18:53:52

POGS, don't worry about anything. i am fairly convinced that you were not the cause of this topic! hugs for you.

imjingl Wed 25-Apr-12 19:59:24

It's penn'orth! Or, it could be penn' 'orth as the 'y' of penny and the 'w' of worth has been omitted.

But that's going a bit far.

grin

imjingl Wed 25-Apr-12 20:00:30

love from Bossy-boots. xx

smile

Greatnan Wed 25-Apr-12 20:11:47

I am not sure how much more clearly I can say this - it was a general point about forum etiquette and not intended to start a witch hunt. I would be really glad if everyone would accept that and let it go.
And of course if someone asks for help with a post we should be glad to oblige.

petallus Wed 25-Apr-12 20:44:31

Thanks imjingl

Anagram Wed 25-Apr-12 20:54:05

Please, Greatnan don't take offence. My comment was not personal, it was only a joke, an attempt to lighten the tone of this thread which has obviously backfired - I'm sorry.

petallus Wed 25-Apr-12 21:48:49

Anagram I thought it was a nice smiley joke.

Anagram Wed 25-Apr-12 21:50:18

Thanks, petallus - that's the way it was meant...smile