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yes it is still being added on even tho thet don't know if you are a tax payer. I always refuse on principal if the admission is more than standard cost.

They do that in Australia, well they do where my DD lives.When I visited earlier this year I found it embarrassing at first but soon learned to say no thank you. My DD said when it first happened to her she felt put on the spot and said ok the first few times then when she realised how wide spread it was and it was the norm for her area she soon learned to say no thank you. Something else that has derived from overseas and made its way here.

Hobbycraft ask you if you want to add 20p to your bill which I don't mind. To round up to nearest £? Would depend on the charity I think but I don't think I would object.

The definition of the noun Charity - the voluntary giving of help, typically in the form of money, to those in need.

The word voluntary is the key in my book. I'm afraid I never give when asked like that as I feel its a bit like begging. I do give to charity when I can afford to and, to the charities I choose. I prefer to know that my money is going to the cause not to those that 'oversee/run' the charity.

Harsh maybe but I'm not a pushover cos I'm old!

I really feel for the assistants who ask this. I would have to ascertain whether it was a voluntary or mandatory question. My assumption would always be the latter but 'indirect pressure' can make it seem voluntary. After that I would try to find the manager and make my displeasure known without indicating which person had served me. Timely but........at this stage in my life, I sometimes have time.........

'Time consuming' even. Sorry!

I would say no and not feel bad about it. I spend time investigating charities before I donate to them. You used to be able to check the accounts of charities online but may are now charging around £5 to download them.
I make items for Knit a Square which is a small ground up charity that explains where the money goes.
If I give cash, I give to Lendwithcare.org. You can choose the entrepreneur who gets the loan and the money is returned when they repay it. They ask for an optional admin fee of £1.50 which doesn't sound unreasonable so I paid it and then had most of it refunded as it was used as a hedge against currency fluctuations.
If you give through a business, the business will make a big noise about the donation that 'they' are giving. With unethical companies like Tesco it is just charitywash.

The token in the slot works well here (NZ). Once a year our national petrol stations ("Z") holds a "Good in the Hood" month promotion. Charities apply to be included and each neighbourhood Z station selects 4local charities to receive votes. There are 4 boxes in each station, so potentially many charities according to where they are situated within the city. My charity has been fortunate to be selected twice by our local service station. Tokens go into the box of your choice of charity and are counted at the end of the month.The most tokens attract the most money and so on. $4000.00 is shared in this way between the charities. It's a nice idea and everyone benefits!

I have been asked to 'round up' before. When I said no; but I will 'round down' I was just greeted with a withering look . Wont be going back there then!

Begging for charities in this country has be going on for as long as I can remember and so for over sixty years or more it has now become a way of life and the government has accepted that this is the way to help those in need. Whereas in Germany we help our poorer citizens by paying taxes to charities and so no one needs to beg in the street. Therefore I have never understood why it is that if these charities are so essential to our citizens why we don't have a similar scheme.
I feel we have become a nation of beggars because everywhere you go you have to run the gauntlet of tins in your face, begging at the tills or even worse endless junk mail. There is no guarantee that your money goes where it is intended or any indication as to where the money ends up.
I do give to charities but of my own choosing and own amount. Anyone begging leaves me cold.

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Jalima Am I alone in that I really really really hate the TK Maxx Christmas advert it's horrible!

I too give where I can, to my choice of charity. I have also recently had charity 'reps' knocking on my door asking for money or for us to sign up to a regular DD donation. I think it's a cheek and would never sign up.

farnorth Waitrose have been doing the token thing for years, long before the charge for plastic bags came in. You get a token whether you've bought a plastic bag or not.
The same with the Co-op - it's a proportion of what you spend. You get something back in divi which is put on your membership card (like a Boots card) and a lesser amount is donated to 'your community'.

My husband said he has been asked in restuarants "do you want the change?" They want to keep it as a tip. How cheeky is that!!

It is inappropriate to entertain the concept of something being 'inappropriate'. Think of a better reason to dislike something. And remember, it's always YOUR decision whether to be offended.

The Entertainer (toy shop) asks if you want to donate to a charity. It is asked as you are keying in your card details. I found it off-putting, nearly forgot my pin because of it. (Only takes the slightest thing to put me off my stroke!)

The coop not only donates part of your spend to charity, but also helps in a lot of ways. Our local Co-op supports Age Concern and is forever giving food [fresh and within date] and other bits to the local centre. They are extremely supportive, having cake bakes or whatever as well. So I subscribe to them.

But the sort of chugger you encountered annsixty would make me feel very uneasy. It is a bit like the places you go to who ask you for your postcode so they can "GiftAid" your entry fee or whatever. No thank you. YANBU

I have been asked in shops to 'round up for charity. I've also been asked to donate when using a cash point!

Some people are frightened to say no publicly and would put money in they can't afford, so that makes it wrong to me.

Our local wee shop has a charity box on the counter near the till and if it is coppers change I ask for it to go in the box , the girl always thanks us , she never asks for donations

I have encountered this when paying by credit card in a charity shop.On screen it asks if you wish to give say 50p to the charity. Seems a bit cheeky when the goods being bought have been donated in the first place.

It's just pennies and on the odd occasion I have been asked I say yes - I can put my hand on my heart then and say I give to charity

I am a Shoreline Member with RNLI but also donate if they are collecting (have stood outside Supermarket with collecting box myself) also support our local Air Ambulance. I am selective which Charities I support. Never been asked at a Supermarket/Shop till but I would refuse

A few weeks ago we bought a new sofa from DFS and as the salesman was completing the paperwork he said "Don't worry, I won't judge you if you say no, but do you want to donate £5.00 to Children in Need". It wasn't the fact that he asked us for a donation but the fact that he told us he wouldn't judge us which made me so angry. Then he told us that the delivery charge for one medium sized sofa was £59 pounds!!!! We only live 2 miles from the store but that is there standard charge. Talk about steam coming out of my ears.