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Bereavement

My husband suddenly left me

(34 Posts)
Mackir Thu 12-Feb-26 03:18:59

I have been trying to cope but it seems i am getting weaker and weaker. I no longer want to be alive without him. Yet I am. How do you go on? Just pretend eeverything is okay? Or do you just curl up in your bed and never get up? I have family but they all live so far away. It has been three months and still I cannot eat a thing. But i feed my dog. She is my only comfort.

DamaskRose Thu 12-Feb-26 20:26:35

I’m so very sorry Mackir. It is early days but that’s not much comfort to you in the middle of it. Some really good advice here especially about getting some bereavement counselling. And please come back here as often as you like, others have been in your position and really can help. Sending you a hug and some virtual flowers.

Macaydia Mon 16-Mar-26 01:51:31

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words, love and flowers.

(Mackir was a typo so now Im Macaydia, confusing I know, but dont ask.)

Since I kept up with meal replacement drinks, I was able to live through the first few months. Now i can eat a small bit each day. Now I can walk with the dog.

I am forever grateful for all the help from GNetters.

Macaydia Thu 14-May-26 07:12:33

I fixed a name misspell and was Mackir but am Macaydia. Thank you for all of your kind words. I am doing a lot better now with the loss although it is sometimes hard to find a purpose when all you want is to be with your DH again.

AumtieE, I just loved reading your post because I really felt I could relate to it and the cleaning and the scrubbing the floor at 3am. Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do.

Thank you GNetters.

I am able to eat and sleep again. Anti-depressants helped. The dog is happy.

Ashcombe Thu 14-May-26 07:40:06

I’ve just read through this thread and am so heartened to read your updates where we can see you’re starting to turn a corner, Macaydia. Sometimes, folk post about problems then don’t return to update on how they’re coping nor to acknowledge the thoughtful support and advice.

I am glad you’ve had professional help and you are taking care of yourself and your dog. Pets are such a comfort. Sending best wishes for your continued progress. 💐

Macaydia Thu 14-May-26 07:54:24

Thank you Ashcombe. I thought I would surely die from heartbreak but I didnt. Writing daily letters to him really helped me.

silverlining48 Thu 14-May-26 08:21:57

Hello again Macaydia good to hear how you are getting on.
Often writing down one’s thoughts snd feelings frees us up and lightens the load. flowers

Retread Thu 14-May-26 08:42:20

Dear Macaydia, I have not experienced the death of a husband but like most people, I have experienced the heartbreak of loss.

I also found that writing letters to the person who has gone eases the grief, it is very therapeutic ✍️ or, talking to a trained counsellor. It helps.

I remember a time in my life when I literally could not see in colour and everything was as grey as my mood, and I remember also the day when colour crept back in to my life.

Keep chatting on here, you will be looked after.

🥰

Cossy Thu 14-May-26 09:45:41

Hello, thank you for being brave enough to post here and thank you for updating us.

I wish you the very best, keep your dog and us close to you. thanks