I don't know what your friend has chosen but we have just paid for my mother-in-law's funeral and it wasn't even half that.
It included the use of crematorium for the service, live and downloadable streaming, orders of service, a celebrant, the funeral director who was responsible for moving my mother-in-law about 30 miles from the hospital and then looking after her body (until the day), a British willow coffin (as M0nica described earlier). It also included the fees for the funeral director to take my mother-in-law's body to the service, overseeing that, taking her to the burial and overseeing that, the fees for the grave being opened and closed etc etc...
And flowers...
I think the £9,000 must include a lot of extras - and a carriage at least!
She chose her own coffin some years ago and very much disliked limousines at funerals (and refused to get in one at her sister's funeral) so I suppose that can add up quickly if you have several... but I can't see how an "ordinary" funeral before reception costs can easily make that sort of figure.
We didn't choose the cheapest funeral director because my mother-in-law said she wanted a female one if at all possible! 
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