My husband’s funeral this morning

Thinking of you, it's a terrible day. My husband died suddenly six years ago, his funeral is still a blur.

I do recommend joining WAY UP, I found kindness and practical support from fellow widows during the awful early days of grief.

I am so sorry for both of you. My husband died in 2020, and, because of very strict Covid restrictions at the time, we were not able to have a funeral, he was cremated with only the funeral director in attendance. I am not sure how I feel about that now. On the one hand, I never had to go through what you are about to, on the other hand, I feel guilty that we could not say goodbye to him as a large family. As for the next few months, you will get through it. You will be amazed how you find the strength to cope. But nothing will ever be the same again. Everything is different when you are living alone.

I’m so sorry for your terrible loss. Thinking of you x

Dempie55 - a similar situation for me, but we were allowed 15 mourners. It passed in a haze and to this day, I can’t remember many who stood outside the Crematorium to see him arrive and am often surprised when someone says ‘we were there’.
Although it made it an easier day for our DDs and me, it certainly wasn’t the funeral he deserved.

Oh dear my sincere condolences to MrsQuigley and NainCC I am sure you will have strength to get through this.
My stomach lurched reading this as my husband is terminally ill and hasn’t much longer, I feel sick thinking about his death and being without him let alone the funeral and the future without him.
But at the funeral you both will be surrounded by people who loved and respected him, hope that love gets you through the day.

Oh MrsQuigley I can only imagine how you must feel

When you reach the point where you feel the future is bleak, all you can do is just put one foot in front of the other and get through the day, and the following days - and know that this too shall pass, eventually, and that you can only take life in small steps for the moment.

I hope you get some sense of closure, and that the funeral goes well. You will get through this.

So sorry MrsQuigley you will find the strength to get through today I know. After that as others have said take one day at a time. Grieve in any way that helps and let others support you where they can. Thinking of you

1summer. I know exactly how that feels, day after day with your heart being slowly broken. One hour at a time. Very hard for you all.

Such a sad day for you both. I’m so sorry.

thinking of you x

I am so sorry, MrsQuigley.

Please accept my sincere condolences MrsQuigley and NainCC.

I’m sorry, I missed Naincc’s post. Thinking you too.

I am so sorry for you both and send condolences.
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Thanks to all for your lovely messages, they do help and the day has passed in a blur. So true that I am grateful that the suffering is over after so many years and that we were lucky to have 45 years together. Gransnet is invaluable, I don't know many widows in real life and so many here have trodden the same path, sadly.

xxxx

So sorry for your loss MrsQuigleyi know I’ve been through it . On the day of the funeral I still couldn’t believe it was true.
With time the beautiful memories will keep you going . Grieve
the way you want to. There’s no remedy , everyone grieves differently

Mrs Quigley and NainCC - condolences to you both. A difficulty day indeed but you will find the strength to get through it. Hold on to good memories and grieve in your own way and in your own time.

1 day at a time, cry, laugh, hurl a plate at the wall, do whatever helps YOU. So, so sorry you are going through this, take it 1 day at a time xx
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Sincere condolences, MrsQuigley and Naincc. Sending love and prayers, for you and all those enduring the pain of bereavement. ???

Love and support to both of you MrsQuigley and NainCc - I hope that you have both managed to navigate your way through this very difficult day.

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My thoughts and prayers are with you both, MrsQuigley and NainCC. ?

Didn’t want to scroll by, sorry for your loss, such a sad time for everyone, sending you a virtual hug x