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Would you think it was odd if a younger person wanted to befriend you?

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Jeccaevs Mon 24-Aug-26 15:05:02

This probably seems like a strange query. But I would really like to befriend some older women. I’m in my thirties and in the thick of it with two toddlers. My own mother died before they were born and I have no remaining females in my family since my Nan died a few years ago. My friends all have their own hectic lives working full time raising young children too- I am also the only one without a mother or any kind of matriarch figure. I guess the needy part of me just wants someone older than me to tell me everything will be okay because I’m kind of tired of having to figure absolutely everything out myself whilst also being the person all the rest of my (male) family come to for help. Having said that, this isn’t a tiny violins plea for someone to ‘rescue’ me- I genuinely value the wisdom of older women and I enjoy their company. I used to work with a few but I changed jobs and relocated and I miss seeing them. So my ask is, would you consider it strange if someone younger wanted to be friends?

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Cossy Mon 24-Aug-26 15:16:00

I wouldn’t. I have friends of all ages. I’m 68, I think my least friend is 80 and currently my youngest is 50.

But age really is just a number.

Many of us gravitate towards similar people, similar interests and similar ages, but when much younger I did have a couple of female friends much older than I was, probably about 15-20 years older.

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paddyann54 Mon 24-Aug-26 16:34:07

When we were newly married all but one of our neighbours were similar in age to us.The exception was Liz the mother of a man who had lived alone and Liz lived with her older son in South Africa.
We had one night out every week sometimes to the pub for music sometimes a medium at someone’s house to scare the bejesus out of us and we would just hang out in the garden when the weather allowed.
Liz was an integral part of our wee group ,we were all early -mid twenties she was mid 70,s the age I am now.
I,m sad to say we lost a few over the years including Liz who was in her late 80s when she died.She is remembered fondly by those who survive and we all miss her wee face and her wicked sense of humour.
I hope you find a “Liz” to brighten up your life ,but being older doesn,t always mean wiser….she was very young at heart

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Aveline Mon 24-Aug-26 16:36:49

We certainly have a number of friends about 20+ years older than us if we think about it but we don't generally even think about the age difference. They're just out friends among others

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Harris27 Mon 24-Aug-26 16:37:29

I’m 66 and my friends range from 40 to 70 I would love to be that lady you’re wanting to befriend. The world is a better place with as many friends we have.

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