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Why can't I wear this to a wedding?

(65 Posts)
Grammaretto Sat 15-Aug-26 12:36:50

What a shame your DD knows the story!
Wear it. You can tell her any money saved can go towards the wedding costs.
TBH noone will be looking at you 😂
You will be comfortable.

I wish I had taken my own advice for my DC weddings.

I bought a new outfit for each one. The DS were a year apart so I thought it wouldn't look good in the photos.
Then at DD's wedding a few years later, my Mof the bride outfit was an expensive disaster. I never wore it again and donated it to charity soon after.

MissAdventure Sat 15-Aug-26 12:32:31

It's a wonderful thing to find sonething that fits so well, these days. due to my shape

Woukd your daughter recognise it as the same outfit, even?

Usedtobeblonde Sat 15-Aug-26 12:31:33

One of my friends wore the same outfit to her D’s two weddings and no-one bothered.
I can’t remember the timescale .probably 10/12 years apart.
Her D told her if she loved it then wear it.

Luckygirl3 Sat 15-Aug-26 12:31:04

Just tart it up a bit and wear it.

Jaxjacky Sat 15-Aug-26 12:29:20

I’d wear it, particularly as it’s comfortable and not mention it again, if the subject is raised a vague ‘not sure yet’ will do.

Beechnut Sat 15-Aug-26 12:29:11

I would wear the outfit you already have for all the reasons you say.

henetha Sat 15-Aug-26 12:28:49

If you like this outfit then I can see no good reason to buy another one. But it's hard to upset your DD isn't it.
Can you talk frankly and explain how you feel?
Personally I find it annoying to be expected to wear new clothes to events. My budget just doesn't like it.
I'm terrible at making decisions. Good luck.

greyfur16 Sat 15-Aug-26 12:25:48

Would some sort of compromise be to wear it and change up the "extras".
If something fits, that's a marvelous thing!

MissAdventure Sat 15-Aug-26 12:25:46

I'd wear it, for the reasons you state, but also because nobody tells me what i may or may not do.

Maremia Sat 15-Aug-26 12:25:31

It sounds lovely. Now that some days have past, how does she feel about it now?

ginny Sat 15-Aug-26 12:25:26

Wear the outfit you have. What’s the point of wasting money on another? Unless of course your daughter would like to pay for the new one.😀

Sarnia Sat 15-Aug-26 12:24:01

Whitewavemark2

My advice would be to stick to your guns. In practice, I hate upsetting my AC so would probably buy a new outfit.

So my advice is useless😄😄

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 15-Aug-26 12:23:18

If you are comfortable and happy in your existing outfit, go ahead and wear it, I would.

Whitewavemark2 Sat 15-Aug-26 12:23:09

My advice would be to stick to your guns. In practice, I hate upsetting my AC so would probably buy a new outfit.

So my advice is useless😄😄

Sarnia Sat 15-Aug-26 12:20:31

I have a dilemma and would value some advice, please.
My eldest GD gets married in a few months time. Her Mum, my eldest DD, has asked me what I am wearing for the day.
Just before Covid, my cousin's GD got married and I bought a lovely 2-piece outfit. It is a coffee coloured lace skirt and matching top, both lined. It fits as if it had been made for me, is very comfortable to wear having an elasticated waistband and I like it.
When I told my DD I was planning to give this outfit a second airing, she was horrified. She says I must have something new. My argument is that 7 years ago I went to this wedding alone as it was some distance away so the family haven't seen me in it.
Should I stick to my guns and weather the inevitable fallout, especially on the day or should I surrender and cough up for a new outfit that will likely never see the light of day again?