Being excluded from Hen do!

I don’t think you should say anything to anyone at all apart from seeking consolation here and from close friends perhaps. Nothing good will come of it.

An invitation to a party is entirely the choice of the host and a bride has the right to invite those she feels most comfortable with to her hen do. She may have thought of inviting you but didn’t for a lot of different reasons, some of which may have been out of consideration to your comfort or enjoyment, or whatever.

I think your prior expectations of not being invited only altered when you read her comments, and hopefully you will build a closer relationship with your DIL as time goes on.

If you say something now it implies she has done this to deliberately hurt you and surely that wouldn’t be her intention.

Swallow your hurt and look at it objectively to get it in perspective for the sake of your relationship with your DS and DIL moving forward.

My DIL invited her gf's, sisters. mother aunts etc to her Hen do and not me. No offence or hard feelings at all. Son had diplomatically warned both of us that her ideal Hen shindig "wasn't his Mum's kind of thing".

He knew I'd absolutely loathe it.

It was an all-day "luxury" Spa "pamper" day with make-up makeovers, manicures, followed by a dinner with "extreme" male stripper. The whole thing heavily fuelled by alcohol (part of her culture )

My idea of hell. Sooner stick pins in my eyes.

DIL and I get on very well (for 20 years) because despite our differences we 've found plenty in common to enjoy about each other.