A Tie Or Not?

I think dh will be fine as he is minus tie. It’s a wedding anniversary not a wedding and even at the latter I’ve seen many dressed down people. It doesn’t seem to matter very much these days unless it’s supposed to be very formal which this isn’t. It’s about getting together and celebrating.

Short-sleeved shirt with a linen jacket if he has one.
No tie!

BlueBelle

Going without a jacket in mid August as long as it’s not raining is fine
There is far too much worry about is this right is that right wear what you like and feel good in, life’s far to short to worry about things like ties and jackets
He sounds smart and clean wear what he feels good in

Exactly.

petra

Calendargirl
If your husband is concerned about the tie, one thing he shouldn’t do is wear a tie with a short sleeved shirt.

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It always looks ridiculous doesn’t it.

I still remember dd1 at maybe 3, saying, very bemused, ‘What’s that, Daddy?’ when he was - for once - wearing a tie, since we must have been off to a very rare, formal do.

For work, since he was a civil engineer building an airport in a Middle Eastern desert, everyday work togs were shorts and a short sleeved shirt, open necked of course.

His choice sounds fine, if it’s cooler, maybe a long sleeved, but casual, shirt, definitely no tie.

DH hasn’t worn a tie in over 20 years. I bought him a linen shirt with a stand up collar that doesn’t require a tie. That said, it has to be a very special occasion for him to wear it. He goes everywhere in a t-shirt and combat trousers. We went to a funeral last week and he didn’t even take a jacket. I take the attitude that people would rather have his presence than worry about what he is wearing.

I’ll just add, as the OP, all this hot weather we’ve had made me think of dressing more casually, but today it’s quite dull, so I realise on a more dismal day, DH might need something different.

Usually it’s me fretting about what to wear, but for once, I have two suitable dresses, one for a hot day, one for a cooler one, so I’m not worried for myself.

He should wear what he likes. The host said it doesn't matter- which means they just want people to turn up and celebrate with them!

They want people to be comfortable in the hot weather.

It isn't always (or rarely in my circles) about the clothes.

Going without a jacket in mid August as long as it’s not raining is fine
There is far too much worry about is this right is that right wear what you like and feel good in, life’s far to short to worry about things like ties and jackets
He sounds smart and clean wear what he feels good in

Thank you all for your helpful replies.

Personally, I never thought of wearing a tie with a SS shirt, it was only DH fretting about one. I too have always felt that you just ‘don’t’ wear one, so that’s settled.

The jacket issue raised is another one though. I can see that a linen type one would be best, unfortunately DH doesn’t possess one, and his other jackets are more winter weight.

Hmm!

Can’t imagine he would get much wear out of one as he rarely goes to anything else where he would use it.

More food for thought. 🤔

I am also in the ‘no tie’ camp. Somehow, a tie just doesn’t look right with a short sleeved shirt - long sleeve turned back slightly, yes, but not short sleeves.
And a linen jacket would lift the outfit perfectly. Enjoy the celebration lunch 🥂

I would be amazed if people wore ties with short sleeve linen.

My husband would automatically wear a linen jacket with this type of outfit - and immediately that would look smarter than just wearing a shirt.

As others have said, it sounds like a jacket is the way to go.

I would think a light linen jacket might be appropriate as summer weather is unpredictable and you might gather outside. Definitely no tie with a short-sleeved shirt.

There will be very few men wearing ties in the middle of August, what he is planning sounds perfect for the event.

Personally I dont think a tie looks right with a short sleeved shirt.

Calendargirl
If your husband is concerned about the tie, one thing he shouldn’t do is wear a tie with a short sleeved shirt.

It doesn’t sound like a tie is expected but would agree he should wear a jacket. If it’s very warm the men may take their jackets off later, have a lovely time.

What he has planned sounds nice bit I agree that he should wear a jacket. He can always remove it, and the tie, later if no-one else is wearing one. I think a shirt and tie and no jacket is a bit too casual.

Don’t think a tie necessary these days but from your report of what the hostess said no jacket might be a bit on the casual side.

Have a good time.

No tie necessary, enjoy the celebrations

He’s been told he can wear anything so he ll be fine without a tie I don’t think many men wear ties now unless it’s a very formal occasion
He sounds fine

He could always put a tie in his pocket, just in case!

I don't think a tie is necessary. His outfit sounds fine.

It all sounds fine without a tie. I thought it was preferable that no tie is worn with short sleeved shirts, could be mistaken.
My DH, after a professional life of suits, ties etc. rarely wears a tie, unless at a funeral or wedding.