Telling your adult kids what to do?

Only if asked, or an emergency. Comments on news of the kids, always positive.

I think DS and DiL are far more mature than me at times!

I have three sons and I know what they’d tell me to do if I tried to tell them!

Callistemon21

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Although sometimes they tell me 🤔

Ha, ha. I was in London with my son last week and he was telling me which underground line to get and the best place to change.

I was riding the underground before he was a twinkle in somebody’s eye😬

The nearest I get is “ Have you thought of…? “

If any of my three ask for my advice I will give it. Otherwise, no.

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Although sometimes they tell me 🤔

If mine ask for advice, I advise, or be honest if I didn’t know. I think the only time I would ‘tell’ would be an emergency situation.

If one of mine was standing on my foot I’d tell them to get off it pdq, but the rest? Nope! They’re grown up and can make the decisions they want. I have no wish to be doing any of the thinking for anyone else, thank you.

Well, there are plenty of people who do tell others what to do, adult children, husbands, wives, friends , family and work colleagues.
Whether anyone takes notice of them is another matter.

I had a friend who had never had children nor been around any much at all, who used to tell me to tell one of my adult, married sons what to do.

It was ridiculous, as he is intelligent and streetwise, is a parent himself and runs his own business!

I kept telling her that I could give an opinion [if asked], tell my viewpoint and then leave it up to him to take advice or not. He can make his own mind up. She just didn't get it.

She was quite a controlling character.

No point telling them what to do, as they do what they choose,, quite rightly.

I wouldn't tell my AC what to do - they'd be horrified! Every now and then I might venture an opinion, but only on innocuous things eg where to plant the beetroot.

If I told my daughter what to do, which I never would, she would tell me in no uncertain terms where to get off!

Not any more then I would tell my aunt, sister or cousin what to do.

They are adults. While I am still their parent, my responsibility over them ends.

I think, for most people, it is not normal. However, there is a small set of people who believe that is is OK. I doubt that ever ends well for them, but maybe I am wrong.

My son and daughter might ask my advice or opinion but think they know best really. I think they get their stubbornness from me. I was pretty much the same when I was young. I think it's a way to prove to themselves that they are adults and don't need advice.

I wouldn’t dream of telling my adult children to do anything. If they asked I might venture an opinion.

Is she real?
I can’t remember the last time I told my AC what to do. And, this is your ‘estranged son’ ? I don’t understand ….

No, definitely not normal

You can make suggestions but don't be surprised if your suggestions are ignored. Might make him think.

I do not tell my adult children what to do. I might suggest different ways of doing things but I spend a lot of time with my lips firmly clamped shut. I, too, have an estranged son and none of my friends who know have been as tactless and insensitive as your friend has.

It is not