Are you a bad passenger?

I dislike being driven by anyone who doesn't drive as I would drive (that's most people). I drive as quickly as the road conditions and speed limit allows but I would rather take my foot off the accelerator than keep using the brake and I like to keep as much space around me and the car as I can. Most people don't drive like this, OH included. My job used to mean a did a lot of motorway driving as well as driving in unknown places, I've driven a 7.5 ton horse lorry and still currently drive a 3.5 and because I like my horse to have a comfortable ride, I drive smoothly often in very rural places with narrow lanes. I much prefer to drive but I will let OH drive is we are going out somewhere where I might have a glass of wine or two!

Hate driving and hate being a passenger with dh driving. I know his shortcomings!

I don’t mind being driven by others.

My husband is a very skilled driver, I do however sit there as an extra pair of eyes, good job as my eagle eyes prevented an accident on Friday morning!
I am a confident driver but not as skilled as my husband.

I enjoy driving though Mr L would say I'm too cautious - I like to approach road junctions with the expectation that I will have to stop while he expects to be able to go!

I am not a good passenger so I always take knitting or crochet with me. Some times have to undo it all if the tension's gone all wrong, but better than gripping the sides of the seat/ pressing the brake pedal!

Yes!

Pre-pandemic DH used to drive once a month to visit his daughter, but has only been maybe three times in two years, so I worry whether he still has the stamina to cope with a long drive of about four hours for our holiday. We are breaking the journey both ways.
Also he is so used to staying at home that it will be quite a shock to his system to be out everyday instead of just twice a week locally. I have deliberately chosen a place with both buses and trains so I can go off on my own if I want to.

I like driving fast (regulations permitting, and my car has an excellent 0-60). I'm a careful driver. If we go on a longish journey my husband always drives in his car and I really don't enjoy being a passenger on longer journeys nowadays. No idea why that is, his car is very comfortable and he's a good driver. Just me I think.

I don’t think I’m a bad passenger, not often driven by others though, MrJ usually as I drive most longer journeys.
I have a friend who drives me occasionally, very, very cautiously and slowly.
I think MrJ drives too close to the car in front, he thinks I leave braking too late. We can both drive each other’s cars if required, his car used to be mine.

I'm both a nervous passenger and a nervous driver. If only I could live somewhere with good and affordable public transport!

I don't drive any more and have become a more relaxed passenger as I know they are in control and I just have to let it go. If it's too fast then I shut my eyes, it really helps! I remember pushing my foot to the floor on my imaginary brake though, ha ha.

I’ve always been the main driver and will always thank my father for making sure I learnt to drive at 17 (54 years ago!)
First (late) husband couldn’t drive when we met and it was a good few years before we could afford a car. He eventually learnt but was happy to let me drive (including towing a caravan).
Second husband had his own car but was always happy to be driven - fortunately because he had a stroke 5 years ago and lost peripheral vision and now has dementia.
I hate being driven!

I’m happy to be a passenger as I don’t enjoy driving.
I will drive other people except I won’t drive if my Husband is in the car.

I think if I were you, I would insist on taking my car on holiday.
Sometimes men get on my nerves. Bad passengers are sometimes the result of inconsiderate drivers.
Why shouldn't we comment if they do something wrong? Like speeding or driving too close, or in my OH case not looking before overtaking.
He gets nervous if I drive on the outside lane, so I don't. I don't want him to be nervous. But it's OK for him to do it when I'm the passenger.
Men!!

Cabbie21, I know how you feel. I actively avoid asking my bloke to go anywhere long-distance with me if it involves driving. He brakes late. Gets too close to other vehicles. Has slow reflexes. And has crashed every car he's owned other than the last two (and that's because he doesn't work / drive much anymore). Whereas I've never had an accident that was my fault (despite driving a lot on a daily basis). Doesn't inspire confidence, does it?

I'm not too bad but I feel I'm getting worse. Especially when I gasp and he hears me! He's a really good driver but long journeys on fast roads make me uncomfortable.

I am glad I am not the only one. To be honest it has made me wonder if I can bear to go on holiday. We always take his car and have already had a conversation about it, as it means if he were unwell I'd be stuck, He did agree in emergency I could drive his car, so that is progress. The other problem is that his mobility is not so good, so if I drive I can drop him off at a venue then go and park.
I am sure he loves his car more than anything else, and I do not know how he will cope if health ever forces him to give up driving. I do worry, but try to tell myself not to interfere.

I'm a very nervous passenger as I am not in control, but my OH never takes account of this. When I drive I consider how he feels. We rarely travel together.
When we drive to our caravan we drive separately, even though its a long distance. I refuse to travel with him, unless I'm ill and can't drive.

I don't drive.and I hate my husband's driving so much that when we used to have to drive into work each day ( thank goodness not for the last 15 years)I used to sit in the back and one of my work colleagues laughed and said it was like Driving Miss Daisy.

I’m awful. I’m an enforced passenger presently, due to an injury, and it’s dreadful (for me and anyone else unfortunate enough to drive me anywhere).

Margiknot I don’t think people who drive faster and closer are better drivers, I always thinks that there are other road users and I should make allowances for their stupidity. Therefore I keep my distance from other fools.

I’m a particularly bad passenger in ‘my’ car when my husband drives. He is a better driver than me so tends to drive faster or closer to other vehicles. He gets mad at me if I say anything! I say my car but it’s our family car- although I am the registered keeper

Oh yes. I'm a terrible passenger. I hate being driven. Of course, some people are better drivers than others.

Even worse than in a car though, on a plane. I'm that nightmare passenger that is terrified of flying. Have been known to scream and cry.