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Should I let my daughter, and family, live in my house?

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semperfidelis Sat 12-Mar-22 13:45:19

Recently my daughter has sold her house. Her partner does not own a share in it. I have offered to let them, and their two small children stay with me until they find somewhere else. My house is small, so it will be a squeeze and it's a long time since I shared a house!

Her partner has said nothing about this, and although I can understand he may be apprehensive about this, I feel we all need a full and frank discussion about how we will live together and what financial contribution they will make. I wouldn't expect very much.
Her partner has had serious financial problems in the past and kept these concealed for some time. I am also concerned about other aspects of his behaviour, which I won't mention here. He is a good Father which is a positive point. My daughter will be.upset if I change my mind. I am in a real fix!

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Ali08 Tue 29-Mar-22 14:15:50

Did he live with your daughter and family, Semperfidelis, or has your daughter sold her house with the aim of them all moving into a new place together?
If, as other people have wondered, any of his problems are drugs and/or alcohol, make it a clause that he does neither in your home or grounds, or he is booted out immediately!!
Has he got family he/they could go to if it doesn't/can't work out with you?
As with others, I am dubious about him, but I don't know enough to say don't do it!!

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lemsip Tue 29-Mar-22 14:25:41

you should not have offered as you're already apprehensive. trouble ahead I think

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