Sleeping alone

We've had separate rooms for years - firstly as he used to snore horrendously but was then diagnosed with sleep apnoea so given a C-Pap machine. The snoring stopped but all the air escaping and the noise of the machine plus the pipe getting tangled up it just made sense to carry on that way. Just me and my cat in my room now and we love it

I slept separately from husband no 1. Heart problems and then vascular dementia made him impossible to share a bed with. Husband no 2 snores a bit but is otherwise a much better bedmate. Though he has a bad shoulder at the moment which has meant we have to switch sides: not so good for either of us.

We have had separate rooms for years now. Certainly does not mean we don't love each other it is simply practical !
I can read before I doze off, he can snore as much as he likes without a sharp elbow in the ribs. We both wake refreshed and in a (usually ) good mood.
We are building our final home at the moment and our builder initially found us really odd when we specified his and hers bedrooms. Made me laugh when he apparently told his wife our plans and her response was "Bloody good idea " !

When we moved to a smaller house five years ago, I had two of the single beds which we had, put into our new bedroom. My DH had Parkinson’s, and was at the stage of having psychotic episodes, and he also needed help to go to the bathroom so I felt that I couldn’t leave him on his own. I was much happier in my single bed, as he had violent dreams which were played out physically, so I was safer in a separate bed, sadly.

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Every so often I sleep in the spare bedroom - I can have the window open and have my meditation app on - my other half is nesh, snores for England and puts the light on when he comes to bed even though he knows it wakes me up - not the most considerate soul. So I love sleeping in the spare bedroom!

I'm with @sashabel on this one. Since splitting with my ex when I share a bed for the night, there's a good part and a less good part. Don't know how'd I'd permanently share again.

I would be very sad if we ever had to have separate beds/rooms. We share an ordinary double quite amicably and it's nice to be cuddled.

Luckygirl13 ? we are in separate bedrooms because of health issues too. Since we had an empty nest it makes sense.

One or other of us started sleeping in a spare room months ago, when we both had bad colds - lots of coughing, plus we’re both up and down to the loo quite a lot anyway, and disturbing the other.

It seems to have become a permanent arrangement. I often sleep very badly anyway, so want to read, have the radio on, go downstairs for a cup of tea, etc.
It hasn’t meant that our relationship is at all less close, though.

However ‘my’ bed is the king size guest bed, and we have a guest coming soon for 4 nights, so I’ll be moving into a small single room, that’s a bit of a dumping ground for ‘stuff’ - inc. all the Christmas decs still waiting to go back in the loft. I’m going to miss my lovely KS bed…?

Sleeping alone is one of the great joys of my life now after years of sharing a bed with a snorer for many years, and then a restless leg sufferer.

Separate rooms after dh came home from heart surgery and stayed that way. On the plus side I can read as long as I like or in the middle of the night with no one moaning about the light. A couple of times when we have been in the same bed I don’t sleep well as I try not to move around as I am now used to in our King size. On the minus side I miss the company.

I have slept alone for many years. I wouldn't want to share a bed with anyone now.

Luckygirl Enjoy sharing with your partner till you can!

After 10 years of widowhood I don’t think I could ever share a bed with anyone else. I’ve become so used to my own space. I still sleep in our kingsize bed and do the Alice in Wonderland thing. 6 nights one side then 6 nights on the other so I’m not constantly battling with linen changes! The joy of clean sheets without the hassle of changing them. The unused side is my ‘office’; everything I need which then gets shoved to the other side each week ?

I've a double bed all to myself and can never figure why I don't sleep in the middle rather than changing sides whimsically. Had a word with myself but nothing happened!

Separate bedrooms for a year now. Great sleeps!!! Saves me from trying to get to sleep with his horrendous snoring, so I put the light on to read and relax and he wakes and moans I’m keeping him awake with having the light on. He’s retired; it’s me that has to go to work in the morning!!

Very sad Luckygirl

Luckygirl3

Separate rooms for us due to DH 's horrendous snoring.

I don’t think many people realised that the doctor they were seeing that day had probably been on call the night before. Looking back at it it was totally wrong.

We bought a super king size bed many many years ago. OH was on call at night so much and it meant he could slip away without waking me too much. He could have been having an affair for all I knew! We had an on call phone line on his side of the bed and the family line on the other. He used to ring me from his side of the bed to say he was coming over!!!

The big bed was a godsend when he became so ill as I had a bit of space, but in the end we had to change it for a hospital bed for him to sleep in. I eventually went into the spare room as the nights were awful - shouting out and paranoid. We had a carer sleeping in who used to do some of the night visits.

All very sad really.

Separate here too due to health reasons.

My DH is a night owl and I am a lark. We’ve had separate rooms for ages. It began when I had problems with my back and I found it impossible to get to sleep, and then to be woken again when DH came to bed at midnight was very trying, not being able to nod off again for hours and feeling guilty about putting the light on to read. My elder DD moved out about that time, so we had space to spread out. We have moved twice since then and now have his and her ensuites - absolute boon! (May sound “posh”, we aren’t- they’re very compact but functional and we are very lucky). It works for us, a good nights sleep is so important. We celebrated our golden anniversary last year.

Humbertbear Ditto