Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

The issue is that when adults as naive with technology and hand it to children they can be placed in danger.

Are you aware of any of the games have any chat features? Did you screen them?

Adults need to be aware of their limitations with technology and ensure they are educated and up to date before ever trusting a child with such a massive liability.

1. Did the parents know you were buying those games for him?
There are so many free games out there.

2. You are disappointed at a 9 year old because you chose to put inappropriate information and responsibility on his shoulders - your failure, not his
Total lack of common sense on your part

I hope that iPad has the proper parental controls - basic Internet safety

Shandy57

Shinamae so lucky you found out before your direct debits bounced, I'm glad the bank alerted you. I'm sorry your grandson didn't understand he was paying with real money - what age are the games for? I used to run the youth club for 8-12 year olds and some of the kids told me their parents allowed them to play the 16+ games which did involve being on line and money. Luckily we didn't have wifi there at the time.

Such a shock for you, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow.

I've had a shock too, but not serious like yours, but my person is 70 years older than yours! I gave my best friend's partner my old Kindle, I thought he might like to read some of the books I've purchased. I have left my account details on it because if I delete them the books disappear, I explained clearly when I gave it to him it was for reading only - but when I went on tonight to buy a new book for mine, he's put his name on my account! Awkward, I'm going to have to ask him to delete it.

Best of luck tomorrow.

Thank you Shandy, I don’t think I am guilty of anything too bad just perhaps some naivete which I will now learn from. I’m quite sure I am not the only person this has happened to.. hope your roof is getting sorted soon ???

I’ll just leave my head above the parapet, no hardhat and just expect the stones!

Shinamae so lucky you found out before your direct debits bounced, I'm glad the bank alerted you. I'm sorry your grandson didn't understand he was paying with real money - what age are the games for? I used to run the youth club for 8-12 year olds and some of the kids told me their parents allowed them to play the 16+ games which did involve being on line and money. Luckily we didn't have wifi there at the time.

Such a shock for you, I hope you can get it sorted tomorrow.

I've had a shock too, but not serious like yours, but my person is 70 years older than yours! I gave my best friend's partner my old Kindle, I thought he might like to read some of the books I've purchased. I have left my account details on it because if I delete them the books disappear, I explained clearly when I gave it to him it was for reading only - but when I went on tonight to buy a new book for mine, he's put his name on my account! Awkward, I'm going to have to ask him to delete it.

Best of luck tomorrow.

you should have dealt with his parents, no good being annoyed with a nine year old child.
you are right to be annoyed with yourself and I bet the parents are annoyed with you too.

You did say you were annoyed at him. Again it's wrong to place any blame or ill feeling on him. The card should never have been active.

He’s 9 years old for goodness sake.
Not sure why your bank should be helping you to get your money back. From your post you clearly knew this could happen and you still went ahead and did not set any spending limits on the games before handing over the iPad.

I have explained I am annoyed but do not blame him and I am annoyed because I did give him some lengthy information of why he should do nothing that he’s got to buy anything but yes I genuinely except it was my fault failing as an adult!! Nevertheless he listen to my talk and seem to take it all in but I accept that these companies do have ways of pulling youngsters in and the cost is not evident until the end!

Why are you annoyed at your grandson when you failed as the adult?

You did not protect your card and make it so that he could not use your card without you entering the details.

Sometimes it is not clear that the "purchase" in the game is real. That is what the games do to generate sales.