Grandchild behaviour

Tell her once and then turn off the WiFi.

etheltbags1

I love her to bits but she will not do as I say. I have tried saying I will tell dad or mum, I have tried reasoning with her but she won't budge. She is almost always on a device and I get told to wait a bit till she's finished. She just mimics me rolls her eyes and pokes holes in my arguments. She's very bright and gives me a detailed reason why she won't do as I say. I only want her to do her hair etc. I'm not strict.

It is difficult, but on the other hand I remember being hugely proud the first time my daughter won an argument (with logic) with me.

Sometimes they are just testing the boundaries to see who they can 'get away with things' with the most! She may not get away without 'punishment' or 'consequence' with her parents, so she's trying it out on you..one of my GD's has just begun getting a bit cheeky/bolshy with her mum (she's starting high school next month) but i took her away last weekend for a mini break with her younger brother and never had that problem with her- she knew not to bother! And the 2 of them were only niggling at each other once but i admonished them for it and it stopped.Sometimes you must give them boundaries and stick to them.Was same with my children growing up.You must tell her parents.Maybe if you say she can't come to your house until she stops that behaviour etc, but then you must follow it through.She will have time to think over what she has done.?

I think her age is the important factor here. My two year old grandson won't listen to me telling him to stop running but will listen at other times. He's the same with his parents who are teaching him constantly about listening and consequences. What consequences are there if she doesn't do as she's told? For example, the two year old ran away from me in the park and wouldn't stop. When I finally caught him the consequences were we didn't go to feed the ducks, an activity he enjoys. We left the park and went home. He knew he had been naughty and was very contrite. Does your granddaughter ever say sorry? A conversation with her parents and find out what methods they use to get her to listen. Perhaps, if she is naughty or cheeky tell her to apologise or you will take her home. And follow through. Good luck

Our SIL switches off the wi-fi. It took a while for the Gchn to realise why their connection was disappearing, but they soon realised who was in charge!

2021 - it's still a man's world so she might need this assertiveness for when she grows up! No much help I know but I have known boys to get away with this kind of behaviour. How old is she?

I was once told by someone I had a lot of respect for not to make threats to children you don’t intend to, or can’t, keep. If you say you’re going to tell her mum and dad and don’t then you’ve instantly lost the battle. If she’s bright enough as you say, and you’ve properly explained the why so she understands it, then a report to parents, calmly, is necessary. At the moment she has no respect for you. That needs to change and only you with the help of her parents can retrieve it. Love is about respect and care. Good luck. Ps I’m paying attention as I suspect I’ll have this battle re tablets etc before long!! ?

How old is this grandchild?