Where should I move

My relationship is very tense with my dd. She now lives across the other side of the country and wants me to sell up and move near her. I am happy where I am, i have a home and friends and considering moving to a flat which will be more manageable. The background is that she does not like my boyfriend. My dd and I had an estranged relationship for a year because of it and she refused access to my gc. We spoke again when her marriage dissolved and to be frank she needed money. We get along now but it is very clear that I have to conform. My partner and I split up briefly and during that time I somehow ended up putting in an offer for a house near her subject to contract. This will make be totally reliant on her, I won't have friends and will need to start again. Now partner and I are back together, we love each other dearly and we have sorted out our problems. How on earth do I tell her I want to stay here with him without ending up estranged again. I've got myself into such a mess. Please advise what you would do. Thank you.