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I Feel Terrible

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Sara1954 Wed 10-Feb-21 19:56:00

I think your daughter is cutting off her nose to spite her face, I bet you cuddled her afterwards, and she’s probably forgotten all about it.

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Sara1954 Wed 10-Feb-21 19:51:22

It’s easy for her to criticise, but she wasn’t there. When I started looking after my granddaughter, followed by her siblings, I told my daughter I had to feel I could discipline them if necessary.
I don’t like telling them off, they’re good children, and it’s not very often necessary, but I have shouted at them, and I know my daughter would never criticise me, she knows I love them to bits, and, if I tell them off, there must have been good reason.

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Oopsadaisy1 Wed 10-Feb-21 19:50:18

Poor you, hopefully a raised voice won’t do her any harm and maybe it has prevented her doing it again.
I’m assuming it was voice raised rather than a screaming match?
I can only sympathise and if you still want to look after her when she is so difficult then hopefully your daughter will relent.
It might be good for you to have a break though if she is really difficult to handle.

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beautybumble Wed 10-Feb-21 19:40:36

My 5 year old GD is a screamer. I adore her of course and have some wonderful times with her. But she screams blue murder if she can't get her own way. My DD is beside herself with worry about it as bedtimes can be horrendous. So yesterday, I was looking after her and her 7 year old sister and she kept taking her sister's toys off of her. Normal behaviour I know, but when I tried to explain that she mustn,t do that, she started, big time. I usually manage to calm her down, but not this time. So I made her sit on the stairs and told her she could come back when she's calm again. Well this went on far too long and I'm sorry to say I shouted at her. I shouldn't have. Now my daughter is very unhappy about how I was too hard on her. I've looked after grandchildren a lot for the last 10 years and was always good with them and they were usually good too. But now I feel so bad as I'm told I won't be needed anymore.

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