Relationship with DILs

My Dil allowed me to be present when she delivered our first grandchild. She was in foster care all her life and treats me as her mum.
SIL was an idiot then DD chucked him out. Her new partner cares about DD and her 3 children puts them first in everything.
Stepped up to be a better father than their own. (They have all said that) Lovely lad who also had a sad childhood.

I didn't find your OP insensitive or upsetting LovelyCuppa and I'm sorry if my post made you feel that way.

ITs interesting isnt it Cuppa. I dont have a Dil and it just struck me that in the years I have been on GN I have read so many posts about dils but rarely about getting on with sils.
I have two sils one lives abroad, so we see him rarely but he is fine when we do see him. A bit quiet.
The other is ok too, he doesn't make us feel uncomfortable if we visit and for that I am grateful. I dont have any expectation of them and therefore have not been disappointed. Could this in law thing be about expectation. I dont know. My dh and mum got on very well but I have no idea what mine think about me, hope they like me as have always tried to be fair and not to take sides.
Am wondering what my dds mothers in law think of them. Theres a thought. Oh to be a fly on the wall. Or not, perhaps. .

Sorry Smileless2012, that was quite insensitive of me. I hope it's not an upsetting post for people.

Our DS got divorced a couple of years ago and after getting married and having his first child, our other son estranged us 8 years ago, so my experiences of D's,i.l. aren't exactly positive.

I have only one DIL and she is lovely. She’s the best thing that happened to my son and they have two beautiful children. She asked my DH to be god father to her daughter when she knew he was dying it was the loveliest thing and he was overwhelmed by her kindness as he was step-grandad not my sons father. I couldn’t hope for better.

My DIL is in the process of divorcing my DS so my relationship with her is non existent. I thought we had a Good friendship until she dropped that bombshell. It came completely out of the blue for DH and I.

I love my SIL and must confess I now feel vulnerable when I consider the future.