Sentimental music - what do you think?

Oh dear, I see someone has reported me for being nasty . I merely quoted what the OP had said.... "I sometimes think I'm not avery nice person" (she said it). I simply said "that says it all".

Ooh, what a nasty, mean, horrible person I must be. Tut tut.

from me too ExD we're all acting a bit strange at the moment.
Hope you have a good day x

*ExD

Point taken.

ExD did you read my reply on your other thread that is all about this friend?
I really think that you need to stop writing personal information about her on a widely read public site.
You've already written about her wider family (multiple bubbles), her fragile mental health (including possible dementia), issues with her husband ( including a possible affair), and now a very sick relative.
I was initially supportive of you, but this isn't a 'nice' thing to do, as you alluded to at the end of your op.

I have heard of a good few people who are struggling, but I would find it really difficult to live with.

Well, if she's going on and on to ExD imagine what it must be like living with her.
I think she needs help.

Yes, perhaps she is just getting on his wick?

Perhaps if this friend of yours is becoming over-anxious and frantic about everything, her husband is just retreating from her company and playing music to take his mind off her constant worrying and to remind him of happier times.

She sounds as if the COVID crisis is upsetting her peace of mind and perhaps she needs to talk to a professional, starting with her GP.

I don't often play music but did put some on today to "cheer us up in lockdown", lovely, until it was pointed out that I'd chosen Les Miserables.

My friend gets on my wick, makes me laugh, and drives me up the pole (and frequently down it, too)

I'm glad to have somewhere to anonymously get things off my chest, because I think our friendship would be over if I didnt.

ExD Do you?

Feel better now?

I agree PinkCakes.

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My DH likes sentimental songs.. as well as other stuff.

I did read your OP properly ExD. "Would it be best to ignore this and laugh quietly to myself, or let her rant on and on?" comes towards the end of your OP.

I've just re read it and don't see where you've said that you "used" to find it amusing. You also posted earlier in your OP "she's becoming a source of amusement" not that she used to be a source or amusement.

TBH I found your OP which is about a good friend, you say you're close too, unpleasant.

Men rarely enjoy sentimental love songs.... so it does seem
Suspicious ( if he hadn’t liked them and played them before)
Not much you can do ExD except suggest she ask him why he is suddenly doing this? I do know what you mean about a friend who often has a crisis in their life ( I know someone who seems to have one every week.)

He could of course be thinking of HER (was the singer Don Williams)

You're my bread when I'm hungry
You're my shelter from troubled winds
You're my anchor in life's ocean
But most of all you're my best friend

I'll suggest it when we chat tomorrow,

It could be all kinds of reasons that this chap is in bed listening to nostalgic music.. maybe it turn him on?

What I don't understand is why people don't ask a straight question in such circumstances. "I have heard you listening to a lot of old favourites recently. Is there a particular reason for this?"
Who knows he could be choosing the pieces of music for his funeral or creating a lifetime playlist or set himself a challenge to be ready to go on Desert Island Discs? So many innocent possibilities and she chooses an affair!

I used to find it amusing Pink cakes.
I don't now.
I hope you feel better for doubting the genuineness of my friendship, it's helped a lot

This 'other woman' whether real or imaginary could be of long standing of course.
I've just put the phone down from another long conversation, and this was the answer she gave when I suggested that covid has meant that affairs weren't possible. She's now fretting about her cousin in Scotland who has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and hasn't long to live. I do think she's developing some kind of problem (I don't want to suggest what problem - no, you're right dementia isn't a reasonable suggestion, but something's not right there - dare I say it could be mental? Because of the general worry over covid\?)
Throwing bricks at me isn't helpful, but feel free to carry on if it helps you.

ExD You say this lady is a friend, she jumps from crisis to crisis, she often ends up in tears - yet you find her a source of amusement?

Her husband probably hasn't got another woman (with all these Covid restrictions, would it be possible to meet up with someone secretly?), but perhaps he could be thinking of times with someone a long time ago? Whatever it is, why would you think the lady is developing dementia?

maybe songs from a time he was happy relax him...and why not .What a lot of suspicious grans you are .

Going back to the last couple of months of 1986 when my ex husband and I went to a pub, he would keep putting 'Woman' by John Lennon on the juke box.
He left me for someone else the beginning of January 1987.
I still can't make out if it was for me or her.
Her, for the 'I love you' bit and the words' I didn't mean to cause you sorrow or pain' for me?
I wish I knew.
Could be possible your friends husband is missing someone.

ExD many people are struggling with all the restrictions on our lives and imaginations can run riot. Your friend's husband may be finding life difficult and has found a way to cope with music. Some people find sentimental songs comforting.
Your friend may need to rant to cope with her own distress. If she was my friend I would let her rant away if it helps her.

FannyCornforth
Yes, he might well be telling the truth but I don't think his wife's intuition should be entirely discounted.