contact with grandchildren

whoisthis we've had the same with our granddaughter (3) who asks to video call us, then after five minutes gets over excited and runs around.
Last night we were a bit later getting in touch and she was already in the bath.
She took a few minutes to start talking, always a bit shy at first, but then we had a proper chat with her as she couldn't go anywhere!

I havn't seen mine for more than 2 months,I understand he can now say whole sentences, but when I FaceTime he just wants to run around.

Lully, i understand how disappointed you were but hope it’s not too long before you see them again.
We saw our two yesterday, kept our distance of course. We had a walk. It wasn’t long but it was lovely to see them again.

My two teenage GC are with mum, who has just come home from deployment, having previously spent lockdown with dad. They live a long way away, too far to drop in. But my stomach lurched when I saw a blond woman , similar to mum , getting out of a car outside the house.

It wasn't them of course but it made me very sad.

Sparkling, I'm in Australia

When I face time the youngest (17 months) I have a little doll who wears a hat , I hold her up to the camera and we say hello dolly etc which grabs the little ones attention and we play head, shoulders, knees and toes and other games like Wind the Bobbin up with the doll and the baby joins in.

In the UK we still are not allowed contact with family, where do you live Sue. I haven't heard from mine, so disappointed. We aways had them and loved them to bits I never thought for one minute they sound care. Bit depressed at the moment, miss my husband and feel isolated. There are a few around here, a few families, whom have not taken any notice of restrictions.

We were lucky enough to see our 2GS yesterday. Our restrictions have been eased and we are now allowed to have up to 5 visitors. It was wonderful to see them after 8 weeks and amazing to see how they have grown. We are so lucky.

My toddler granddaughter is in Australia, she has just got a new baby brother. All visits of course postponed/abandoned so no hugs for me for a very, very long time ! It’s doubly hard with a new baby who I probably won’t meet until he’s at least 6 months old . So many of us have sadness now in your lives, but nothing can be as bad as losing a beloved family member so we must count our blessings and wait it out .

How lucky you are to know that at least this will end and you will hold and hug your grandchildren again. My daughter stopped us seeing ours aged 12 and 7 in March 2018 after a disagreement. 10 years of our lives, given completely, just cut out. I've tried but I seemed damned of I do or don't. Even in these unprecedented times, nothing. I've sent flowers and my hopes they are all okay, nothing.
So place yourself in my shoes for a moment, although I'd wish the heartache on no one.

Ds1 brings his two to the end of our drive about once a week and we have a five minute chat.
FaceTime others on a weekend.

The one we miss most and would be able to see at a distance is 3 year old dgs who is with his mum. Mum and dad (our ds3) coparent and are separated, and mum has felt that covid19 is good reason not to let dgs go to daddy. Daddy hasn’t seen him for 8 weeks despite Court Oder and gov guide lines.
Daddy FaceTimes him every evening but 3 year old is often more interest in the cartoons that mum has on tv. His solicitor has confirmed she is in contempt of court but the Family Court is not sitting at present.

New to gransnet. So glad to hear the term physical ache because that's exactly what I've been feeling. Also glad to hear that so many are not seeing their grandchildren. You feel like you're the only gran in the world not seeing GC when the family next door have visits all the time from grandparents!

My 9 year old granddaughter lives with us, I'm sure some of you would say you would love that ! But it is hard work especially during these awful times.

Have only really been contacted when they want something! We've been a bit disappointed they've not been in touch much, usually me texting them. Having said that I'm quite enjoying less stress during lockdown not having to constantly chase to see if I'm feeding anyone or taking them anywhere, so maybe my own fault. Just so grateful to all those who are still working to keep us safe and carrying on.

I see mine on Wattsapp and zoom . 17 year old is happy to have a chat. 4 year old usually wants to show me toy, some new skill he has acquired or something he has made or baked. Once or twice a week he asks me to read him a story.
He hugs himself and the throws his arms open to send the hug to me when he says goodbye. Love to see them both but often tear up when they have gone.
As someone else said not seeing close family is a physical ache.

We haven't seen our GD since December. DS & DiL live in another country, and we try to visit every other month or so. We'd planned to visit them again in February, but it wasn't to be.

GD is 20 months old now, and she's changed/developed so much since we last saw her. It breaks my heart that we're missing out on so much. We speak to them most days on Skype but, as others have mentioned, you can't expect a toddler to be interested for more than a minute or two, then she's off, whizzing around the house! She will come and wave bye-bye, and kisses the screen, and now says 'I love you', which melts my heart!

We can't wait until it's safe for us all to visit each other again, and to be able to have proper hugs & kisses. We just hope she doesn't completely forget us before then!

LadyGracie Made me laugh. Yesterday - shes 19 months - said Hi Granma, showed me her snack, then said Night Night. So funny. And ran around the dining table.
Thanks for replying

Just wondering why you are asking the question grannyornot? Are you? or are you going to clamp down on people who say they are?

I see my grandchildren all the time....(but am not putting anyone of us at risk ) so how does that fit in with your question?

I still see my Grandaughter as her Mum is a keyworker and we provide her childcare.

Myself and OH are not vulnerable and we are self isolating so she is safer with us than anywhere else. She can also wave to her Great Grandma through the window. She has asthma so we are scrupulously careful.

I feel very lucky as I know most people on her are missing their families terribly.

Our 3 year old GD asks to speak to us, she says hello then whizzes round the room for a minute or so, kisses her dads phone shouts bye and cuts us off.

DD has had the virus and had to isolate in the main bedroom with en suite, mother of GD above. Daddy WhatsApp mummy so GD could speak to her, GD screamed I don’t want to video mummy, I want to give her a hug

I'm sorry to say this, but I expect it's quite difficult to keep a young child's attention for too long, however riveting their grandparents are.

I wouldn't like to be put in front of a camera and expected to chat for too long, or too often.

If any of you experienced Grandmas have any tips for how to have a happier video call with a toddler - see my comment above - Id be very grateful! It does hurt but of course she's not old enough to understand.

My little GD at the start of Lockdown used to hug the phone when we video called my DD. Now at 19 months she screams when I video call her Mama - we think she wants all her attention and has now realised I can't play with her.
We limit our calls now to about 2 minutes before the tantrum starts. I don't want her to learn that seeing Granma is a bad thing!
Its very hard - my first grandchild. I'm 64 and live alone but would never put them or me at risk so just look forward to when we can be close again.

There’s nothing I want more at the moment than to see my gorgeous grandchildren aged 17, 2 and 5 it’s like a physical ache. I have two neighbours both still seeing theirs for no good reason other than they want to,and one of the grans is in the very vulnerable category ☹️

A neighbour has had her GC at her house a couple of times. Mum and dad are key workers and both work shifts and are called on to do sudden over time. So the GC have been with her on a couple of occasions. She is the first to admit that this is wrong but feels trapped.
The adults don't come in, just watch the children enter the house.
I don't know what I'd do in her shoes.