Holiday,what to do

1 agree fully with Nanny123. It has to be your choice. If you're not feeling happy about the thought of going, then don't go. A polite refusal now could save you a week of unhappiness later!

It's a "NO" from me too!

I feel sick thinking about the heat, the car, the anxiety, I would say no.

Decline the offer explaining the reason. I'm sure they will understand. Perhaps suggest a long weekend away with them at another time.

No don't explain the reason! If you tell him you're scared you get food poisoning when you go away with him and you're scared he can't drive properly, he'll be offended. Instead say you'd love to go another time and you're really pleased he asked, but for some reason you just don't feel like it this year. By the time next holiday comes around it may be somewhere with cleaner food and he might have proven his driving skills and you might want to go. But if you tell him why you're not going this year you might not be invited again :D

I'm on the inclined to go with them list. They're thinking of you. Do you go on holidays? If not perhaps they're thinking it would be a treat for you. It's only a week and there are so many lovely places to see which you may not get the opportunity to see again. Unless he moves at the speed of F1 drivers you can't get that far in a week if you're going to stop off for sightseeing.

You don't have to be with them all the time. You can say you're going to read and have a siesta. Let them go for dinner alone a couple of nights, say you're a bit tired and want to write some emails/postcards whatever. I think it's also a lovely alternative idea to fly out to where they are for the final couple of days.

Cars have air-con and are cool, it's when you step out of the car it's very hot.

A lot depends on how active you are and whether you can keep pace with them.

It appears son and wife, in your words 'are not youngsters' and son having just passed his driving test is not what I would rate 'an experienced driver'.?
That alone would put me off this holiday plus he is not used to driving on a different side of the road. You have to say NO and if he does not like it then tough.

I think you should say ‘yes’. If you refuse you might not be asked again. Just be thankful that you have been in included.

Why on earth would they be upset if you just said 'Thank you for the offer, but as you know I was quite ill last time and I am not getting any younger so I do want to risk spoiling your holiday again'

If it was my son that is what I would say and I cannot imagine him taking any offence.

Can't think of anything worse...say no.

How old are they?

It would not be my idea of a holiday. Spanish driving is not like UK driving- and on the other side of the road possibly in a right hand drive car - I'd thank them for thinking of me but I'd stay at home.

More than food poisoning,I'd be worried about a newly qualified driver driving in another country on the "wrong" side of the road and with different traffic regulations.

It's very nice of them to ask but I would politely say no on the grounds that driving around in the heat is likely to be tiring for you and may make you feel nauseous.

I think that M0nica has it just right. A polite but firm no, "Thank you for thinking of me but I must decline".

I would say no, but say you would like them to ask you again, especially if closer to home.

I'm with Monica on this.

They are in their mid 40s and quite adventurous so I decided not to go .Last time they were away they went hiking in S America!