Difficult BIL

I'd call this behaviour " small man syndrome" . He obviously does it for effect, to look clever, to raise a laugh........... but it's not funny! It's upsetting, distressing and embarrassing. Try a response to MIL along the lines of " well I clearly married the better of your two sons, did you never teach BIL any manners?"

More importantly, do try not to let it upset you although I know from experience that is easier said than done, my SIL is of a similar character and wastes no time in offending me!

I find that, in situations like this, a simple “your opinion means nothing to me”, works very well! I am furious on your behalf. Have a wonderful Christmas!

My friend put on weight after giving up cigarettes. We were out one night when a local fellow commented she’d ‘ fair put on the beef’.
She quietly asked him why he felt he had to make such a comment. When no reply was forthcoming, she said, “ Now, I didn’t feel the need to comment on your baldness, so I’m curious as to what your motive was”.

For myself, I’d go for something like, “ F*ck off, you ignorant c*nt”.

I'd have said, loudly to him :
" It's better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you're a fool than to open it and remove all doubt ".

or, " I'm glad to see you're not letting your education get in the way of your ignorance ".

A really nasty one :
" Decomposed bodies are less offensive than you are ".

Dddima...I like it .

? some great suggestions here!

Well Piperly I'm dying to know how you got on?
I hope you didn't have to use the wet trout.
Whatever happened today you deserve a really relaxed meal out with some fellow sufferers.

Good morning Ladies. Thank you all for your help and support yesterday. Just an update for you all!. It all went very well in the end. BIL greeted me with a kiss and MIL then said how lovely I looked which was out of character for her. Sat down for our meal. And then BIL started...... so Pip how much weight have you actually put on since you married my brother? I said "Pardon?" And then my husband stepped in....."stop being so bl***y rude or we will leave". Then MIL asked what was going on and BIL then looked a bit flustered and went red!! My husband then told her what BIL said to me. MIL then said if I had put on weight she had not noticed and too much importance was put on weight these days....husband then said he'd put on 2 stone since we'd got married and it was because he'd never been so happy!?? You could have knocked me down with a feather!! BIL then shut up. So all in all it went a lot better than expected. Thanks again to you all. ?

Good for you, and your husband for stepping in and backing you up.

Glad you had the courage to speak out and your husband supported you.
I bet BIL will be wary of doing it again!

Nice one! That guy has got some serious issues.

I don't imagine he will ever do it again!

Delighted for you piperly, best possible outcome. Well done to you and your husband.

Perfect outcome. Well done.

Well done Mr P bet your brother in law won't try that tack again. Bullies hate to be confronted.

That is excellent.

I wonder what triggered your OH into making such a public stand? - whatever it was, good on him!

I think MrP had a sneaky look at GN

Well that's put him in his place,we hope. Good for your H.

What a great outcome. Well done with your "pardon?" Piperly ?❤

A very bitchy “friend” once crossed the line with a very unkind comment.
I looked directly at her and said, there’s something on your chin, I think it’s a bit of venom.
She never said anything nasty to me again.

Great outcome! Although I'm slightly disappointed there were no wet trouts involved!

Well done your OH!

“ Does insulting others make you feel more of a man “

"Do you practice being rude or does it come naturally to you".

You could try smiling and say:

Oh dear, repetition is so boring. Why not try something new? You could find it makes you seem almost intelligent.

And laugh at him.

Good luck

Piperly, so pleased to read thins turned out so well, and good on your Husband for his support. I dont think that rude man will do it again.