Why are some people so flipping cross?

It was a friendly answer. Just not what you were hoping for.

The response where I did explain was funny. Sorry you missed it.

I don't think this thread is about people being passionate, I think it is more about nasty aggressive and unpleasant comments which are sometimes made. There are many on GN who are passionate about their political beliefs but sometimes the political posts become petty back biting which does nothing to further either side of the argument.

I think baggs you have made a good example of what I am trying to say.

This discussion has as far as I am concerned very sadly ended.

It's always the same posters as well.

Sometimes, however, it is very easy to enrage someone unintentionally and whatever is said subsequently, even if to pacify or ask for clarification, enrages them even further.

Then along comes someone with a sensible post and all settles down again.

#TM
(Totally Misunderstood)

I'm sorry you feel sad about it, ww. Perhaps I shouldn't have answered at all. I will bear that in mind.

BTW, my 'explanation', such as it was, will still be on the SK thread so if you go and look for it you'll know as much as nearly everybody else. I think it was the current SK.

Sorry, but typing and crossing out 'that's a polite way of saying it's none of your business' is friendly, is it?

Takes all kinds.

Well, it does, which is a compliment because it would be very dreary if we were all the same

It's not unfriendly and it was said with a smile, though ww wouldn't have known thst without an emoji, which I forgot to add.

I could just as well complain that the question nosy rather than friendly, but I didn't. Nobody else has asked why I made the change, perhaps because they realise one's reasons are likely to be a private matter. I have argued that on other people's behalf in the past on Gransnet.

If someone doesn't volunteer an explanation for an action that is, in its result, not deceptive, it should be common knowledge that, out of politeness, one doesn't ask questiions.

You may not agree with that viewpoint, dj, which is fine, but it is a perfectly good and not unfriendly or impolite viewpoint to have.

Lumpy Spaced Princess wrote on page 2 that there's a lot to get cross about - that's my view too.
It's so disappointing that there are so many terrible things happening in the country, and in the world, and we can't do anything about it.
I'm usually a calm person, too placid really, but I lost my rag last night (on another forum.)

Interrupting here to say that I am not posting anything important at the moment, but I do just want to have this thread on my "I'm on" list so that I can come back to it without getting an error screen telling me it is inaccessible.
OK, as you were.

work in progress Elegran
however, progress seems to be a bit slow

Not ? just a bit ☹️

There is a lot of crossness about at the moment, and a lot of adrenaline fuelling bad-tempered exchanges. As long as the crossness is aimed at situations and systems, it is a good thing. When it is directed at people, it is bad.

What about when it is directed at groups of people, with no names?
Where would you put that on your list?

#TM
(Totally Misunderstood)

As long as that's not #TM
(Theresa May)!!

Elegran I agree with you but acc. to Freud there's a defense mechanism called Displacement. When a person is upset by something but can't to do anything about it, in their frustration they vent it on something or somebody else.
* Displacement

"Displacement is the redirection of an impulse (usually aggression) onto a powerless substitute target. The target can be a person or an object that can serve as a symbolic substitute. Someone who feels uncomfortable with their sexual desire for a real person may substitute a fetish. Someone who is frustrated by his or her superiors may go home and kick the dog, beat up a family member, or engage in cross-burnings."
Or get into quarrels on Gransnet

Makes a lot of sense to me TriciaF
I hope there is no connection between some of the aggression vented today and the events of the last two days.

I'm still intrigued by "gfery"...

dj "What about when it is directed at groups of people, with no names?" If I wanted to be gfery I could turn the question back to you and ask "Like towards everybody who chooses to vote differently from the speaker/poster?" but that would just start another political-type argument, so ignore it.