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Exactly and our solicitor also said we could have counter sued for rent she should have paid over the years but we just let it drop because we didn't want to continue the unpleasantness.

Surely no court would allow someone to profit when they have not contributed a penny. Your DH has the right idea, you do not need people with issues.

SIL = sister in law

You've done your bit. She threw it in your face. Now it's your brother's turn.

Was the SIL who persuaded her to take out the injunction the same one that she's living with now? If so, smacks of an ulterior motive.

My mam and I both agree that she will never come to live with me because it would be a toss up as to who killed who first.

She took out an injunction after persuasion from my SIL that as she had lived with us for 20 years she was entitled to some profit from the sale of the house. She moved in with us in her late fifties after what my husband called a lot of emotional blackmail following the death of my father saying she couldn't cope on her own. She has never contributed to any of the household bills. We were more than happy for her to move with us as we had a good relationship but she was adamant she wouldn't move.

Could you give her the chance to move in with you again or has it gone past that . Very odd to take out an injunction , on what grounds ?

Your mother took out a high court injunction to stop you moving Angib?
Is there slightly more to this tale than you've told us so far?

Oops yes, county, sorry. Hmm that's a bit different then.

I think it was a different county not country!

As Jane10 says, your mum must have been still quite young when she moved in with you. Is it possible that in the last 20 years you have benefited a lot from her presence - childminding, house keeping, paying a share of the bills etc? Is your brother now the one having to care for her in her old age?
What were her reasons for not wanting to move abroad? Maybe she just felt too old and tired, you can't reproach her for that.

Definitely don't feel guilty. My mother did the reverse and went to live abroad, with no backward look or concern towards small GCs.

Mother are adults and are free to make choices and have to live with the consequences. Keep the communication route open, I hope it goes well.

Unfortunately my mother realised her mistake, too late in old age.

You definitely shouldn't feel guilty. You've done well by her. She must have moved in with you when still quite young. Very forbearing of your DH unless it was her house. At least you're back in contact again. She most likely misses you more than you miss her! There's a chink of light. Take it slowly and I'm sure relationships will improve. Good luck

You can't stop feeling guilty think it's a built in thing for women especially mothers.
You can try slowly to build bridges but don't let it take over. You are entitled to your own life , your mother had the option of coming with you and chose not to. Operative word ' chose ' you are not responsible for her decision. Please don't waste time worrying about this, enjoy time with your family as that is why you moved.
Bon courage

You have done brilliantly to have your mum living with you for twenty years. Is she now living with your brother? Don't feel guilty. This is now your time- for you and your DH and family. Keep in touch with your Mum and hopefully rifts will heal.Don't let her make you feel guilty. Be kind but firm. I repeat you are an absolute star to have your mum living with you for 20 years!xx