Grandad's upset us again

I do still want the GC to stay over sometimes and want to include them in our outings. (Few & far between I might add) I shall just have to ask daughter to smooth things over if she can.

Gosh that's tough for you. What happens if you give him a good talking to? Don't skate about the issue -get to the point. Are you afraid of his reaction?

I think it is jealousy - he doesn't like me spending time with the family at all. I have to plead or override him.

If you see them on your own, I see no reason why your SiL should object, since it's your DH who is stirring things. As he's a step grandpa and has no GC of his own, it's not surprising that he's intolerant, but hard for you to be 'piggy in the middle'.

Getting a bit worried about husband generally - he seems to be losing social graces. Took his phone out whilst our (male) friend was in the middle of a story last week.

Is he jealous of the boy?

Husband is always on at the lad when he's here. I have asked him to lay off but he can't seem to help himself.

She wants to keep the peace at home and feels caught in the middle. SIL is a bit stroppy generally but works all hours. My mum used to criticise my girls who have grown up beautifully and I hated her for it.

My DH sometimes gives my GSs an old fashioned type of telling off. Tbh, it's often warranted. I just tell him to leave off though.

Maybe children need to learn how to interact with the different generations? At eight he would probably understand that older people feel things differently.

When is his birthday? Buy a specially nice present and make it "from Grandad"?

I don't think the SIL should be laying down the law like that.

What does your daughter think about the ban on you having the children, Llindill49?

What a shame. Poor wee boy! I'd not be able to retrain myself if my DH did anything like that -not that he ever would.

Sorry but I think he had no right to say anything. GS is not naughty - just a rough & tumble boy of 8 who sometimes forgets to wash his hands, etc. His parents are really much stricter than I sometimes think is necessary. The other day GS was crying and said "you know gramps doesn't like me? I had to reassure him we all love him.

It's the son in law who's doing the spoiling things.

Don't agree jings! This man has the potential to spoil future family outings and events. I think things should be in the open. Tell your husband what has happened as a result of his 'intervention'. Good luck.

You know, it's surprising how well grandparents can get along without seeing their grandkids. Haven't seen mine for about six weeks. They have been busy doing their own (holiday) things, and I have been doing mine. Love 'em loads, but don't exactly yearn to have them around.

I agree with jings don't fight your son-in laws corner.

Did the eight year old boy get hurt in all this? If not, grandad should be tolerated. If not listened to.

Don't tell him. Son in law needs to grow up and stop being so precious about his kid.

Leave grandad alone. He probably had a point.