Birth of daughter's first baby

My DGD was born a few hundred miles from where I live and I didn't think of going there for the birth. If I was close by, tho, I wouldn't have thought of going away.

Good news, mutti!

No. From experience the birth was early and went badly wrong. I was able to cancel the holiday and claim the cost on insurance.

if you don;t go she'll be late ( most first time mums are) and if you do she'll have the baby

When my younger daughter had her first baby she had to have an emergency Caesarian and it was a very difficult time for her and for her family. I live 2 hours away, but better than 2 days away in these circumstances. Of course she had her husband, but a poorly young woman needs a hug from her mum at times. It's nice to see the baby early, but for me it's more about offering support to the mum and dad if they need it. How quickly could you fly home if something happened ?

Not wanting to be judgmental, but absolutely NOT.
My sister and I were pregnant at the same time way back in 1981, my Dad and Stepmum stayed for the arrival of my sisters twins, but then went off for an extended holiday in Australia. I had had a difficult pregnancy throughout, hospitalised several times, and was rushed in again on New Years Eve for an emergency C section. My daughter was born safely, and I soon got over the trauma. But, call me petty, or not, I arranged her Christening a few weeks before they got back to the UK. And to be honest, although I never said anything to them, I never really forgave them in my heart.

We went on holiday as DD2 wasn't due for a while with her first baby. Mother Nature had different plans. The baby arrived 7 wks early. Thankfully he's now a healthy nearly 3 yr old.

Not a chance! MY parents were visiting and due to go home the day my waters broke with their first grandchild - they went home anyway! I was devastated by their detachment and would hate for my children to feel like I did! Later found out it was my MUM who was so distant, my Dad wanted to be involved, but sadly died 4years to the day later?

Am with you GrannyRowe, I never truly forgave my Mum either and she compounded it later by saying she had no idea why I wanted a 2nd baby when I got pregnant with my DS, after all 1 baby had been enough for her!!

My first GC was born in the town we live, but after a couple of miscarriages and a premature birth, the parents didn't want us around too much. They stayed in hospital for quite a while after the birth, and we visited for an hour or so every other day.

Second GC was born a five-hour drive away and we went to see her as soon as we could, but didn't have much opportunity to help with the baby.

I suppose it makes a big difference if it's a DD or a DiL having the baby, but all four are very capable parents and managing beautifully.

We are booked to go to Australia for a wedding only returning two weeks before our daughter's first baby due. I feel that baby could come a month early as my son's firstborn did or baby could be late. There are so many things which could happen to prevent you being there anyway so I would just make your plans and fingers crossed you are back in time!

I was on tenterhooks two weeks ago as DD1 was 12 days overdue with her 2nd and we were due to go on holiday. DGS3 was born on the Wednesday and we went away for the week on the Saturday...we were lucky to get a cuddle before our holiday and all went smoothly. We had booked the holiday straight after returning last year before DD was even pregnant. I would never have booked if I had known her due date.

Never any chance of us going away in summer months anyway, which is when mine is due. Otherwise, I would only go away with that timetable if I had booked and paid, but wouldn't want to actually make plans anew

Definitely not. We lost deposits on flights to Vancouver because I couldn't bear to be away when DD's first baby due. DH a bit miffed!

Not sure what I'd do if it was booked and paid for but definitely wouldn't go if nothing was booked but, then again, nor would my DH.

I wouldn't go either, and in fact we won't be booking any holidays after the 6 month stage if DD becomes pregnant again as she developed a severe case of pre-eclampsia at 32 weeks with her first.

We were actually booked on a holiday a few days after the early birth of DGD and cancelled when we saw how things stood in the hospital, even if she wasn't C-sectioned the next day (after admission) she would have been at some point during our 2 weeks away, and Mexico felt toooo far away ... didn't get ourselves organised again for about 9 months as it turned out!

Only if the holiday had been booked, otherwise I would probably wait until after the baby was born.

Hope all goes well mutti. Plenty of time for holidays in future.

Hope all goes well. There's always plenty of time for holidays and you may need them if you are involved in childcare. Congratulations mutti and if by any chance you are German, that mean you will be oma , allies gut.

Towards the end of September, Indinana. Thank you for your good wishes; I am indeed really looking forward to the arrival of the new little one, especially as this daughter has previously endured some miscarriages.

I would not have gone away hope all goes well Mutti ?

Just thought that those people who responded so kindly might like to know that my daughter had a gorgeous little boy six weeks ago and all is very well. Thank you all for your support. I have just posted a question on a new thread on the 'Ask a Gran' part of the forum about an issue affecting a different branch of the family, and I'm hoping for some equally enlightening and helpful replies.

Mutti thanks for letting us know. Congratulations. We will require forenames at least one baby picture. Enjoy your little one.

Congratulations to all mutti. Wonderful for you and your family.

Lovely news!

Congratulations Mutti, that's such good news for all of you x