No visits allowed

Is this the case with everyone. Does she allow her own family to visit, or are the facebook posts meant for everyone. It is not normal behaviour for a new mum to shun everyone, new mum's are usually glad to show off their new baby, and accept help with household tasks. I know I did. Sounds to me like pnd. She will feel guilty that she feels this way. Can you have a private chat with your son, and find out what her feelings are? If this is the case, the sooner she accepts that she needs help, the better.

To be honest we have never had a warm relationship but until now we have been civil. I am concerned for my son and grandson

It is her first and I understand about the house and all that but I don`t see the need to post offensive posts on facebook, which she has, and to tell everyone to stop harrassing her and to p* off.

Perhaps the house is in a pickle, she can't get breastfeeding or a routine sorted and is generally weepy and disorganised.

What if you suggested doing any shopping she needs, do some cooking to take over? Of course she could take this to mean you think she can't cope so be careful!

Is it their first and does she have any other visitors?

Sounds like a touch of PND I remember being the same with my second child...many years ago!

How did you get along before the baby was born?

So sorry, you must feel devastated. I can only suggest, bide your time. Anything else might inflame her feelings. Her hormones might be all over the place. Perhaps the birth was traumatic. Hang on in there. X