Anybody got any emotions?

Pedants corner is a thread for people who are particular about English usage!

gracenan Sorry did not realise that you would not understand the question

A very good friend of mine is a Doctor in London and I asked him once, how do you keep your emotions hidden when you have to tell a family bad news, he said that he packages them up inside and saves them til later and when later comes he has had a chance to calm down. He said that a fellow Doctor once told him that if he were to break down and cry along with his patience he would be of no use to them and only add to their misery.

I do happen to agree with that, I know when I am feeling a bit down I would prefer a kick rather than pity, but we are all different and need different things.

Gracemum there is actually a book called Emotional Intelligence that I am presently reading. It explains that in Business it is very important to use Emotional Intelligence, it really is an interesting read.

Do you mean Pedants' Corner, CHEELU? Or have we got a new jewellery thread I was not aware of?

what is pendants corner

I have started another thread with the same post - so if you are reacting, have a look there!

"Bumping" this as I would love a response!!

Oops! I misread this as emoticons!! However, having recovered from that it got me thinking about emotional intelligence
1.Perceiving emotions – the ability to detect and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, and cultural artifacts—including the ability to identify one's own emotions. Perceiving emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intelligence, as it makes all other processing of emotional information possible.
2.Using emotions – the ability to harness emotions to facilitate various cognitive activities, such as thinking and problem solving. The emotionally intelligent person can capitalize fully upon his or her changing moods in order to best fit the task at hand.
3.Understanding emotions – the ability to comprehend emotion language and to appreciate complicated relationships among emotions. For example, understanding emotions encompasses the ability to be sensitive to slight variations between emotions, and the ability to recognize and describe how emotions evolve over time.
4.Managing emotions - the ability to regulate emotions in both ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.
I respectfully submit that we women are still the superior sex in this direction.
So the question is not "Do you have any emotions," but "what do you do with them?"

Daman Has it occurred to you that, in general, men are not embarrassed about showing and discussing their emotions to and with women, but may feel it's a bit non-macho when they are with the boys? I have many male friends and I think almost all of them are unafraid to reveal their emotions chez moi. Incidentally, I don't actually have pins and needles and I didn't actually choose anything emotion – it was just an example.

Daman. My bloke shows plenty of positive emotion when his mates turn up to take him fishing.

Grannyknot - I sympathise completely -'Sunrise, Sunset' and 'Turn around' bring me to tears too.

There aren't many men on the site, Daman - you'll just have to take your chances! You could try Lil's Bar where Pete and gramps hang out, but they can get a bit rowdy...

Daman , nothing wrong with a bit of lust!

soop Last Saturday I bought my train ticket to the Scottish Storytelling Festival, I will wave to you sleeping as I pass.

Butternut Ah! so I am in the wrong place. I thought 'Ask a Grandad' might help me. (By the way what is an OP - I only joined last Thursday).

Are they all in the Shed then? the men? I s'pose they could come out here if they wanted?

Daman You did go all around the houses with your OP - just go to the shed and ask.

The other night in my singing group, we were singing 'Sunrise, sunset' from Fiddler on the Roof, and on singing "was this the little boy I carried, was this the little girl at play, I don't remember growing older, when did they?' to my total surprise I found I had tears running down my cheeks. Eek! Where'd that come from? So I guess you could say I was bewildered too.

Ana says 'you choose how to react to them' absentgrana says I (choose to) hate it when I get pins and needles. She could choose to love it because it shows her blood is working.

Anyway I wanted the men in the shed to help me, as a bloke, to understand why we men generally dont show much positive emotion.

Ditto Greatnan...thank goodness I'm not alone...

My emotion at the moment is bewilderment.

(My post was in answer to Daman's last, of course!)

Of course it is. You can't choose not to experience those feelings, they're part of being human. You can choose how you react to them, though.

Oh, you mean feeling as in sensation – I have pins and needles in my foot; not feeling as in instinctive reaction – I hate it when I have pins and needles in my foot. Why didn't you say so? Does anybody actively create emotions from their feelings, even with these definitions? I have pins and needles in my foot – shall I be pissed off, stoical, proud or ignore the whole thing and go for a bit of red-blooded lust?

Daman I shall need to sleep on that one.

Bags. I dont want to experience grief lust fear anger apathy. Are you saying its better for us if we do experience them?