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Mother put on child abuse register for letting her 5 year old go for a walk!

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GrandmaKT Sun 13-Sept-26 20:48:39

I've just been reading a story in today's Sunday Times.
The little boy asked if he could go and collect goose feathers from a park, a route he knows well and had been to that morning. She agreed and off he went.
Now, I was in two minds about this, thinking it would depend on the neighbourhood, the maturity of the child etc. I was astounded to read on that they live in a secure, gated community in Williamsburg Virginia, with 9 locked gates and roving security patrols!
A neighbour reported him being out alone, a security guard brought him back and, long story short, she and her husband (who fully supports her), have been put on the register for 7 years.
AIBU to think that this is getting absolutely ridiculous? I walked to school on my own at five, my own children played out in the street with friends. Children need to be allowed to learn to be independent and not be shut up indoors.

Witzend Sun 13-Sept-26 20:53:47

How old was the boy? Fairly pertinent, IMO.

petra Sun 13-Sept-26 20:55:40

Its America. Nothing surprises me anymore 😱

GrandmaKT Sun 13-Sept-26 20:55:40

5, it's in the heading sorry.

Cressida Sun 13-Sept-26 21:01:33

I read about that and it seems the little boy refused to get into the security guards vehicle because he didn't know him. The guard walked him home.

In the US they seem to molly coddle their children and don't let them take any risks.

There are videos on You Tube like this one www.youtube.com/watch?v=F82v6sjwxdg of reactions to Forest schools in Denmark

TerriBull Sun 13-Sept-26 21:42:50

It was a gated community in the US quite safe, she knew her child enough to know he was sensible. I probably wouldn't have let mine go out of sight aged 5, but the authorities were far too heavy handed given the context. I think he wanted to go back to a pond they passed to collect goose feathers. Not sure where it was in the US, definitely wouldn't let him go anywhere near a water hole in the deep south. Alligators 🐊

Casdon Sun 13-Sept-26 21:43:40

I wouldn’t let a five year old go out to the park on his own, even in a gated community. I’d be worried about them drowning, being bullied or attacked, or getting lost.