Do you mind being addressed with Aw Bless!

Kandinsky

‘Aw bless’ is just so patronizing. It’s like they think you’re useless.

Calling someone ‘hun is so chavvy. Thankfully, I don’t know anyone personally who would use it.

I've been using "Honey" all my life as my mum used it and she got it from my American auntie back in the 50s. We often shorten it as well but if I write it down its always "hon". Mostly used within the family and the odd very close friend. I do find indiscriminate use of "hun" very
irksome!!

I called Aviva finance last week. I’ve never met any of the call handlers: she immediately called me ‘my lovely’ then ‘ my love’ and then again ‘my lovely’!
This is supposed to be a reputable company!
I have a name!
I found it very offensive and told the call handler exactly that! All her language was inappropriate!
Don’t they have trading on how to address customers?
I told her I felt it inappropriate, she apologised and then carried on!
What’s wrong with these companies?

I am 70 and was in hospital for eight days last year, not once did any nurse, assistant, doctor or tea lady address me in that way.

Scottish woman at work use to call me cocker, until I asked her stop. Hated the term. Depends on who’s calling me love.

Bukkie

It does me too Aveline. The one I hate most of all though is being called 'hun'.

Ditto! It drives me insane.

My grandad used to say I don't care what you call me as long as it's not too late for my dinner

My mum was actually patted on the head by a doctor in A&E who then proceeded to talk over her head to me.

During a remote medical appointment the GP kept calling me poppet. He was on loudspeaker in my room so the family could hear! They were falling around laughing knowing full well this elderly patient would have been bristling.

I've found that the main difference between North and South is Luv and Darlin. Said as shown

I wouldn’t like it. I don’t like being called Love, pet or darling either. I realise it’s meant well, but it irritates me. Because it’s meant well, I bite my tongue and tolerate it.

Different areas of the country have their own "term of endearment" It is Luv where I live. We also get "See you Soon'. Which is much better than Have a nice day.

Happens frequently in shops, on phone etc. absolutely despise and hate it, but seems rude to call it out, just like much love, darling other endearments like this.

I always say … why did you say that? It always stops them!

I hate it if anyone says bless or even worse aww bless! I know they probably don't intend it but it feels patronising to me 😵‍💫😖

Round here, it's "my lovely", which I quite like.
I hate "have a nice day" ever since the doctors' receptionist said it to me when I rang up to let the GP know, about an hour after my DH died.
I did tell her that it was actually the worst day of my life.

I'm not bothered what anyone calls me - as long as it's polite and positive. I do get bothered if I'm referred to as "Miss " or "Mrs" and do put that right - by saying "I don't like titles - but mine is Ms actually". I've worked hard/very hard on being an independent person (sex irrelevant) that that is an issue to me. I'm Ms Cariad single and would still be Ms Cariad if I were married - as I wouldnt have changed my name or title. I'm a "person" and it took a LOT of doing/an enormous amount in fact to find a way to be able to manage to buy a house on my own back along on my low income that I've ever had. I was very very conscious that I decided to buy a starter house at 24 and it would have turned up pretty darn quickly and bang on time if I'd been married - but with only my solo and low income to do it with it took a LOT more time and effort (and some good luck and use of intuition) to finally get one years after it was due. I fought hard to manage financially as a single person.

But if someone is calling me "love", "dear", "cariad" - any other similar term meant as endearment - I just take it in the spirit in which it was meant and just smile.

In turn - I'm from Devon and it takes me a while usually to remember peoples names - and no-one has objected to me calling them "m'dear" until such time as I have remembered their name or even afterwards. They know I mean it positively and as a term of endearment/friendliness ...

I like to think I'm reasonably tolerant about what people call me, but 'Aw, Bless' makes me want to spin my head like in the film, the Exorcist!

Nope doesn't irritate me. I was rather someone was friendly than grumpy. Obviously if it was said in a patronising tone and meant to cause offence then I would agree

Mollygo

petra

I would advise the majority here not to holiday in Cornwall.
But if you do, be sure to take your smelling salts because you’ll certainly have a touch of the vapours when your addressed with ^ello my lover^

Some family we visit there don't say that. We’ve never heard that in all the years we’ve holidayed in Cornwall. Perhaps it’s only in quaint tourist spots where they speak “furrin” for the tourists.

It does happen - it certainly did when I was a child - living very near the Cornish border for part of the time and with a mother who regarded herself as Cornish (yep...she meant as a "nationality" at that). So her relatives (as far as my dicey memory of childhood allows for) did say "my lover" and I think there was "my treasure" as well thrown in. Maybe those terms might be more "old-fashioned" - as her relatives were 2 generations older than her (as her "mother" was actually her grandmother - as was subsequently pointed out to me many years later...when it was clear I still believed what she had told me about the set-up...). So - yep...my great-grandmother level generation certainly still used Cornish terms....

Though they did make a thing of their "Cornishness" if my mother was anything to go by - most successful birthday present to her ever was when I looked up an olde recipe for Cornish saffron cake and made her some (just as well - as the traditional recipe takes hours....).

Though they did make a thing of their "Cornishness" if my mother was anything to go by - most successful birthday present to her ever was when I looked up an olde recipe for Cornish saffron cake and made her some (just as well - as the traditional recipe takes hours....).

Ooh, saffron cake! Or dough cake as it was also known. A Friday treat from a local bakers. Haven't had one for years!

Aw bless is patronising, it’s always younger, mostly females who say this to older, mostly females.
It’s probably meant kindly but I find it infantilising .

That's exactly what it is silverlining!

Daisycuddles

Nope doesn't irritate me. I was rather someone was friendly than grumpy. Obviously if it was said in a patronising tone and meant to cause offence then I would agree

There aren't just those two alternatives though. I don't want people to be grumpy and I don't want them to be patronising.

Allira

^Though they did make a thing of their "Cornishness" if my mother was anything to go by - most successful birthday present to her ever was when I looked up an olde recipe for Cornish saffron cake and made her some (just as well - as the traditional recipe takes hours....).^

Ooh, saffron cake! Or dough cake as it was also known. A Friday treat from a local bakers. Haven't had one for years!

I lost track of the recipe I used years back. Though I think I got it from a traditional Cornish recipes website. Think it took me 5 or 6 hours or something to make it!! Defo took a lot longer than I'd expected a cake to take. But my mother was in there any time she saw some saffron cake or genuine Cornish pasties anywhere - and she wanted it.

Me - I just stick to "Devon cream teas" have got to be done the Cornish way - scone, then jam, then clotted cream on top and was a distinct disappointment when I thought I'd cracked it finding one here a couple of times - but they'd put sultanas and I think some spices in there too. Not the same at all imo....

But I stuck with it re doing such a lengthy recipe - as the nicest bread I've ever had was one from the Tassajara bread book - years old now...but I've still got it stuck away somewhere (ie it was the recipes from a Buddhist monastery in America) and I think that pretty much took all day to make.

It would get on my nerves like sweetheart,love,pet or anything else! Sorry they mean well but I find it patronising. They would be politely told not to say that to me.