Do you mind being addressed with Aw Bless!

Allira

A GP said "Aw Bless" to me when I went to her with sciatica but had no advice whatsoever to offer.

I could have blessed her!

Same here, Allira,.

Last week a young woman GP who should have known better frequently said "Bless". She meant well. Also the same young woman was afraid of my quiet gentle dog and told me the social lie " I'm allergic to dogs". This qualified doctor was unable to enter my house until I, her 94 year old patient , had shut my dog in the kitchen ,for the doctor's own convenience.
How could I trust a doctor who first met me before she even entered my house by telling me a lie, and then patronising me!

Normally I'd not bother how people addressed me as long as not abusing me. But doctor/patient relationship is special.

I have perfected ' the look ' no words needed.

Yes it winds me up a lot.

We have just moved to the Cambs.Beds borders and here everyone calls everyone else 'my lovely, and I rather like it.

But the emphasis is that everyone gets called it. My experience is that 'Aw bless 'is only used for the elderly and as a response to them doing something fairly ordinary that is treated like a remarkable feat. I made an apple pie for lunch' 'Aw, bless'

"Aw Bless!" sounds as if it's being directed at an elderly escapee from a care home for the moderately confused, who looks like the genteel old lady from the film "The Ladykillers".

As long as I am not called late for my breakfast 😊

Yes - I really do mind! It comes across as patronising. No-one said Ahh bless to me until I was in my mid 60’s or so and it may not be meant to be taken as patronising, but I hate it!!!

Not that “bovvered”

Better than being totally insulted.

I do think though, that in a setting such a GP surgery or hospital using one’s name is far better!

I would get upset if well meaning and fern fly person said it

I don’t understand “fern fly” ?
Is it autocorrect/typo/dialect? 🙏🙏🙏

I would get upset if well meaning and fern fly person said it, I might reply and bless you my child.
Yestersay when looking for my purse a well meaning young woman tried to take over and said, look let me do it, I could have clocked her, I said through gritted teeth, please I am fine, she was offended but it made me feel as if I was in my dotage so I was sorry I snapped. I don't want people rooting through my bag.

In that situation I'd prefer they just used my name, tbh.

Wouldn't bother me at all. I'm 68 and call anyone I interact with but don't know as My Lovely.

I am sorry, but I have been typing "Aww bless" for ages, and no one has said it's not to their liking. To me, it's like a wee hug. As if you're there but not. And I do not care if it's wrong. We all have our way of saying things. If it's an annoyance then put up.wiv it. Whoever says it is showing care,or happy bemusement. Nothing wrong in that at all!

GoodAfternoonTea

For me, it is a sort of 'bail out' phrase when there is nothing else to say. It isn't really a Sorry to hear that or Oh dear, it is sort of Aw Bless recognition that a situation needs some sort of endearing reaction. I usually raise my eyebrows if someone says that to me as much as to say Indeed!

My pet hate isn’t what people call me, it’s the word ‘patronising’ itself, partly because I’m not completely clear what its actual meaning is! Could someone please explain?
For example, how can it be patronising to tell someone you like their dress, but that was mentioned on here recently, and the poster was not happy. Why? Someone else objected strongly to having a door held open for them! I rest my case.
So much is moaned about now. You can’t say or write anything without someone getting their knickers in a twist. It drives me mental.
Can we truly not pay anyone a compliment any more? That is pathetic.
The world has gone mad and I think it’s possible that places like this make things worse. Gransnet and similar, (much as I love GN) give some professional moaners a soapbox to air their grievances, however trivial. I am not saying that all the things people post are trivial, far from it, but you have to admit, some are.
I will now stand back and wait to be roundly criticised!

My late fil who was a south London man used to call women lovey , men mate and young men boy , but it was because he couldn’t remember their names . He was rubbish with names years before he got dementia.

I never say are bless as an atheist. But the black country in me calls people darling ,love ,sweetie no one has objected yet. Have been called Queen here and in Scotland hen.
Different areas call people different things it's just the way of them talking which goes through generations .

Better than being called a rude word or sexist remark .

As another scouser here. Love a handy way of addressing someone whose name you don’t know Ie on a ward when a patient recognises you but although you may recognise them you don’t remember their name
The term ah bless is patronising I look behind me as if to see who they are talking to
It always works

Not at all, I don’t mind!

I have absolutely no objection to any hospital staff addressing me by my first name. But seeing as we're clearly equals on an informal footing, of course my very next sentence will include their own first name.

I find there are still some senior doctors, male and female, who instantly forget I'm just Butter and start calling me Mrs Jam. Too late, darling. We're pals now, mate.

MayBee70

Maremia

You know what's going to happen now. The phrase has imprinted on my brain. Who will be first among us to use it in a Thread?

Not in a thread. But I did say it to someone yesterday. It just slipped out without my permission…

Maybee70
Wash your mouth out with soap and water as my Gran used to say if we offended.😲😁

grannyro

Aw bless makes me fume! It makes me feel like a cute child not a 76 year old, perfectly capable, adult!

Or even worse as it’s such a patronising comment isn’t it? As if you’re some some dotty old dear.

Aw bless makes me fume! It makes me feel like a cute child not a 76 year old, perfectly capable, adult!

I’m a scouser and love is fine with me but when I worked as a nurse I would never , ever say aw bless to a patient !

CarrieAnn

My grandad used to say I don't care what you call me as long as it's not too late for my dinner

Ha ha. So did mine!