Neglected At Party

I've just remembered going to a barbeque where there was no food to be had.
They'd eaten it all, and half washed and wiped up when we arrived.

The lovely thing about gransnet, Kitty is having wide and varied threads.

This happened at my friends party a few years ago.
We were on time with a lot of others but not much food on offer. Plenty of drink but food run out quickly. Mutual friends had a terrible journey there, through London and lots of road closures, consequently arriving late. Nothing for them to eat. I felt so bad for them .
The party took place in their rather large house, money no problem so why didn’t they cater appropriately. Rather have too much than too little.

How old are you, OP? Do you read any of the threads where people have real problems?

Very good idea, there.

Agree with Hithere

how about,

"thank you for the invite, it was nice to see so many people"

suitably ambiguous.

Maybe she thought you wouldn't make it after all?

How did she greet you otherwise?

Honestly, too many people in a party to catch up properly with friends - one on ones are better, imho

If this is the first faux pas, I would let it go.
If not, I would reexamine my expectations with the friendship

I'm sure she was busy with the guests who had already arrived and didn't think to leave food aside for later. I'd of just nipped to a takeaway on way home if you were hungry. Just thank her for her invite whether you enjoyed it or not, you will be glad you did in a couple of weeks time, that's a long friendship, hold on to it.

I can understand your feelings but I don’t think there’s anything you can do except let it go. Just send a reply thanking them for the invite.

You were an hour and a quarter late so you can’t really complain although I understand it wasn’t your fault if there were only limited drinks, chocolates I guess they had been used up by then, not sure why there wasn’t enough seats for the number invited unless a few strays turned up before you
Not worth making a fuss as you were very late if you d been there on time and got nothing then it would have been worse

I guess that what happens when you turn up late, hey ho.
It wasn't your birthday so why the fuss?

Your friend was probably up to her eyes with friends and family and she couldn’t regulate what the guests were eating and drinking and why should she? Either go late and accept the consequences or don’t go at all.

Just let it go. You were invited and it isn’t worth the hassle to complain.

Just message back saying lovely to see you, sorry we were late, had a great time, can't believe you are (the age) you are!

You surely aren't thinking of having a moan?

Let it go, life’s too short to worry. And don’t forget you were late arrivals.