Neighbour’s party

Very kind of them to warn you.

Agree with most above. If it was a regular occurrence, then that would be different. A one off with fair warning- let it go.

In the words of John McEnroe “ you cannot be serious “
In fact I doubt this is a genuine OP! Asking neighbours to finish their party early ?????

How considerate of your neighbours!

Your dd will be ok.
If this is an issue for her, she has plenty of time to make other arrangements

Where I used to live next door had the occasional summer party that went on until 5 am ish, they would let us know in advance. We were friendly with the couple in question, in particular, he, was such a top guy and great neighbour in every other way, we let it go. The parties were infrequent and I wouldn't wanted to have damaged our relationship with either of them because of that, but actually if people around want to do a summer party and there's a bit of noise involved as long as it's not threatening I don't care that much. I suppose I might have felt a bit different if I had say very young children.

How lucky you are to have such considerate neighbours.

Yes, you’re being unreasonable, as others have said a one off and thoughtful to let you know.

Be pleased they realise it may be annoying - so many wouldn't bother to tell you.
I suggest some earplugs as others have said.

Boots the chemist sell three pairs of earplugs for £4.99.
The party is absolutely not something to get worked up about.
I'd put a note through your neighbours door, thanking them for their thoughtfulness and wishing them a happy evening. It may be a special occasion in their lives for all you know.

I m sorry but yes you are being unreasonable and your husband is quite right leave it They have been considerate in letting you know It’s not their fault your daughter is travelling the next day perhaps she’d be better off not visiting that evening
If they were having parties every week I d back you but a one off with notification is perfectly reasonable

You're being really unreasonable. They're having one party and have been good enough to tell you well in advance. Your daughter can wear earplugs for one night, surely?

Like others, I think it's good of them to let you know. You can hardly expect them to change their arrangements, possibly for a special occasion, just because your daughter is staying (and how would they know that?).

It is inconvenient for you, of course, but it's just a regrettable coincidence. Maybe it would be worthwhile investing in some earplugs, for your daughter at least!

Let it go, you really cannot ask them to compromise because you daughter is staying. I would think you had a cheek.
They have let you know and I think that is nice.

Of course you can't say anything. 1am. is not unreasonable and they have informed you and apologised in advance, and they are not even the house next door. Do you seriously expect them to lop two hours off a party because your daughter has a long drive the next day?

Look,let live and let live. I agree they’ve let you know and if it’s not every week I’d let it go.

All this fuss about one party about which you have been warned? Let it go!

You ask AIBU,yes you are. They sound like very nice neighbours.

Yes, you are being unreasonable!

I think it's very considerate of your neighbours to let you know in advance.

You never know, it might rain and the party will have to move inside... ☔️

I think your neighbours have been very thoughtful in letting you know well in advance about the party - some would not bother. If it’s a rare occurrence, I’d let it be. If it’s a regular occurrence, then perhaps a word with them might be appropriate. From what you say though, it sounds as if it’s the former.

Aargh… late should be let

It was good of them to late neighbours know in advance. If it is not a common occurrence I wouldn’t say anything.

Do they have such parties often? If it’s a one-off, then say nothing if you want to maintain a good relationship. 1am isn’t that late for a party to finish and they’ve been courteous in letting you know. Your dd can always use earplugs.