my support bubble burst!

Hetty, do you live alone ?

I don't really get the 'support bubble' thing at all. Spending time in close contact with others is just the ideal way to catch the virus. I'm sure that most people who live alone can manage without 'support' for the duration.

Theres the rub though isn't it? You can't have 'alternative' bubbles to pick/choose from- that's why we've to stick with one- so theres no risk of spreading the virus! I presume that's why casdon suggests the 14 day thing as that's the 14 day isolation? I only have one DD & her family live near me so it would have made sense to bubble with them- but they wouldn't be visiting on a very regular basis anyway and they have been going out etc. & she had a friend to come stay in first restrictions, (who had a tent in garden to sleep in ,but still) so i didn't really bubble with DD.ive not bubbled with other AC as the rest live too far away& it wouldn't be fair to pick just one of them anyway. I'm not sure what the OP means/expects from her bubble? It means you can visit with the other people or mix in their home/they in yours doesn't it? Not that they have definitely got to come to your house to give you any 'help' as such? so unsure what she means by 'being messed about'? Being in a support bubble doesn't necessarily mean any actual 'help' being given does it,not really and yes as said by someone else- doesn't her son need her 'support' too? I'd have thought the support in a 'support bubble' is more emotional than actual physical 'help' like shopping or cleaning etc.? ?

I think you should be supporting your son rather than thinking about another support bubble for yourself.

The bubbling thing is difficult but my understanding is that changing your bubble is ok as long as you leave 14 days without contact if you change.
I didn't bubble initially as my DS and DD lived a long way away and most of my friends had bubbled with their own family members who live alone.
My DD lives 400 miles away and bubbled with friends but she changed her bubble a couple of times in that way, once to have a family to stay with her and once to come and stay with me.
Soon after my grandson was born my DS moved to Germany for a new job, then when the baby's passport arrived I travelled to Germany with him and my DiL and bubbled with them for a few days. It was meant to be for longer but Germany's lockdown meant an early return to the UK.
Now I'm back in the UK and will have been back for 14 days tomorrow so my options are open again.
It's particularly hard at this time of yoear with Christmas approaching and none of us knowing if we can be with family or not so many people may be struggling with similar decisions. Whatever you decide I hope things sort themselves out with your son and his family.

my support bubble is 6 miles away, I choose to visit them cost getting out and giving my little car a trip is good for me and my car...

just saying.

I think I would look for another support bubble, any chance of just one other person to "bubble" with?

hopefully only 18 days to go now, hopefully, it will be expanded then.

My sympathy is with you Keepingquiet as I know how difficult it is not to see your grandchild .
I can’t help wondering though how much of a support bubble it was before it burst . If you were the one making the effort to visit them, rather than them visit you, as the person living on your own.
It would be a shame to lose contact with your son and grandchild , Could you not invite your son around and chat it all through?
Failing that a new support bubble would be a good idea, with someone who will really support you .

That’s an interesting situation, this is probably happening quite a lot with bubbles that started when they were announced. My family bubble is 150 miles away so I don’t get to see them that much. I wondered if like a previous commenter said, after 14 days have another bubble locally. I did read or hear somewhere that 2 bubbles were being considered by the government? have I dreamt that? I would still maintain the bubble you’re already in because of seeing your grandchild but think about an alternative as well. Real problem hope you sort something and their situation improves.

I’d say two weeks is not long to wait. Why not give them a chance to work things out ? How often do you visit anyway ?

I guess it depends on your options for other support bubbles, would this be family with children too?

If your son is having problems, might he need you for support ?

So sorry you feel you’ve been messed about....
Have you been in touch via phone ?

Hope it all works out x

I don’t think you would still be classified as in a support bubble with them after 14 days of not seeing your son and family, so you are free to bubble with somebody else, provided you then don’t see them for 14 days after you last meet the new person you are bubbling with?.