AIBU to think washing up is not the job of a cleaner?

I nag my sons,21&16 to actually move their stuff so our cleaning lady can actually CLEAN, and it is working after a fashion,we've not had here long,and it works well to threaten the youngest that if he doesnt keep up with his own room that "ill send in the cleaner with a binbag"-which seems to make him shift his rubbish at the 11th hour so to speak

Nannan2, yes I can relate to your post. When I had my cleaner twice a week I had 2 children, 17 and 19 at home who were suppose to jobs around the house. Both were working. They didn't do the jobs hence the cleaner and every week I asked them for a quarter share of her wages and threatened that if they didn't keep the house in between then I would employ her a 3rd a week which would hit their pockets. It worked.

Yes paperbackbutterfly,i too have a cleaner,but only 2/3hours every fortnight,ive done so as im waiting for both knees replacing,and my sons do try help but both have medical/health problems of their own,so for us its a necessity,not a luxury.we had one from age uk but then after 2yrs could no longer afford as their prices went sky high.so we struggled for a year without,and as you say,it mostly didnt get done,but now ive found a reasonably priced treasure as an old friend of my daughter's started a cleaning buisness.but otherwise no, i too could not afford either.i pay out of my PIP benefit. But council no longer provide 'home helps' either but we shouldnt have to justify why we need/ have one.

Yes,my sons both have slight disabilities though,and also medical issues,so its not intentioned,and they
do struggle a bit.we all kind of muddle along.But definately need the cleaners help.

Thanks for the support Barmeyoldbat

It sounds as though your husband decided he didn't need to do the washing up because the cleaner was coming and she could do it.
I'd have been cross as well. Washing up, drying and putting away will take a chunk out of her cleaning hours. Hope he picks up the work she couldn't fit in.

I leave my cleaner to decide what needs doing (including washing up if there is any). She is familiar with the house and tasks and my funny little ways.

Our house was never tidier than the mornings the cleaner was coming!! Her role was to clean, not tidy up, such a waste of time. One cleaner cleared away the children's on-going Monopoly game though, they were furious!

BulldogPaige it was your husband who should have done the washing up the night before as you went to bed feeling poorly. His complaining was just a guilty conscience because he hadnt done it himself. Does he even do anything around the house. We have a cleaner and she is worth her weight in gold especially with me not being able to do much now. We have a dishwasher so virtually everything goes in that but if there was something left on the side she would wash it up. Like most people we tidy before she comes and my husband empties all the bins round the house and the cat litter tray before she arrives.
More important to me is that she changes the bed linen and if the weather is ok will put it in the washing machine and then hang it out. I dread the day she says she is going to retire. She says she has no intention of retiring but one never knows.

We have a cleaner who does two hours fortnightly.
I see clients at home so it is important to me that the house is tidy and clean.
I would never ask a cleaner to wash up...there are far more necessary things to be done, like hoovering, dusting, floors, occasionally changing bed linen, loos etc.
Also..I don’t think it is very respectful to your cleaner...yes I know their job is to clean, but not to do the jobs you are too lazy to do.

We make sure house is tidy so cleaner can hoover and steam mop etc. We always load and unload dishwasher ourselves however if dh and me both felt really unwell I know my cleaner would just load it up and run for me. My dh would always sort out dishwasher and make sure house was tidy before coming up to bed unless he also felt ill.

I agree with OP and the majority on here. Pointless to pay the cleaner to do stuff I can easily do myself (plus I have a dishwasher) I employ a cleaner because I’m disabled and I’m happy to do what I can, when I can and washing up and putting stuff away pots, pans, clothes, shoes, books, magazines is cheaper for me to do myself!

Maccy you need to widen your mind's scope - not everyone who would like their cleaner to wash up is too lazy to do it. In my particular case what I needed my cleaner for was precisely the tidying and washing up every day. At weekends I had plenty of time to clean my own toilets and vacuum but I could hardly leave the washing up festering all week. And it's not disrespectful because each cleaner has a free citizens choice to take on the job as specced or turn around and say "Ewww I am not doing your skanky dishes you lazy bum!"

I have a cleaner once a fortnight and he will do whatever I ask him to do. My house is tidier before he arrives than at any other time. I would much rather he did the jobs I don't want to do. I think asking him to wash up would be a waste of his time and my money. I think your husband was just being lazy and probably felt guilty about it the next day.

I think a cleaner should do any (reasonable) thing that you have explained you would like to be done. The issue in this case seems to be that the OP's priorities are different from her partner's.

If having a cleaner causes such arguments and stress within the family I think it rather defeats the object of employing one.