Golden Wedding Anniversary

A 50th is special - I think I'd be a bit upset if dds did nothing, but then I doubt they'd realise if we didn't tell them.

We had our 45th recently - happened to be exactly the same day as an extended-family wedding, so that made it a bit special.

However best anniversary for me was one I hadn't even realised was happening. Dh brought me a lovely bouquet for no apparent reason, so I was nonplussed - until he explained that it was exactly 50 years since we'd met.
Although I remember the occasion very well, I wouldn't even have had a clue about what month it was!

We did get cards and presents for our ruby anniversary but they didn’t. Are much effort and I was a little disappointed in them. So I know the next time not to be expecting anything . I think it is a little thoughtless of them could your husband having dementia a reason for this? Maybe not wanting to bring up the anniversary because of this. Just a thought.happy anniversary anyway x

I know how you feel. I've never had an anniversary card from my 3 children. It's my 2nd marriage and we met back in 2005. He's not there dad and it sometimes feels like the non event of the year. I'm sure you are not alone. Happy anniversary from me. Xxx

My children have never thought about my wedding anniversaries. Doesn’t worry me, it’s just between you and your husband

Congratulations on your Golden Wedding Anniversary. Its a big milestone and it would have been nice if your children had acknowledged it. However a lot of the younger generation don't do this nowadays unless there"s a party or family get together that jogs their memory about it. Time for you and your husband to spoil yourselves now with a few treats of your own.

Congratulations on being married for 50 years.
We didn’t get married until fairly recently but we did have all our D.C. and partners there. We normally send adult DC a card on their anniversary but forgot to this year and sent an email instead.
Just thinking about it now, they’ve never sent us an anniversary card although my sister always does, which is nice of her.

You’ve mentioned that you don’t normally celebrate your wedding anniversary so if you wanted a party this year, you should have just said so and invited your children to help you make the arrangements.
It’s actually rather unfair of you to complain afterwards just because they didn’t read your mind.

Congratulations on your Golden Anniversary. Kids who'd have em!. If you have never made much of Anniversaries maybe they just didn't think it was to do with them. They probably can't imagine being married to anybody for 50 years!. Perhaps you could organise a small lunch or tea with them all. Do you send them cards for Anniversaries, I have stopped that now I think apart from the "big" ones it is between themselves.

Congratulations, but surely you are being unreasonable about this? You say you have never celebrated your wedding anniversaries, so how on earth were your children to know that you would welcome a card or something similar now?

If your brother mentioned your Golden wedding anniversary to them, they no doubt thought that you wouldn't appreciate any acknowledgement.

Try to let it go and enjoy your triumph of having stayed married for 50 years.

Congratulations!! Well done!! and to KatyK and any others about to celebrate 50 years. It will become rarer I would imagine with later marriages and breakups etc.

We celebrated ours this year and perhaps we discuss these things more than most but anyway all the DC and our DPs asked whether we were going to celebrate but we decided to keep it private and went away together to where we spent our honeymoon. It was lovely. We took their cards and champagne with us .

For our 70th birthdays we held a big party so I have definitely had enough celebrations.

I try to text or send a card for my DC's anniversaries but I think you have to remind people really. They are all so busy.
My in-laws will celebrate 75 years soon, if they're spared.
They have had the 60th with a card from the Queen, 70th - platinum, but I don't know even what this next one is called.

Congratulations to you both. I shall organise some sort of party for our golden anniversary myself - not sure what exactly - there will be no excuse for any of them to forget!! ???

Congratulations, otoole, on your fiftieth anniversary. What an achievement!

Like you, my DH and I have not celebrated our anniversary and, indeed, have forgotten some! However, we had a big hotel celebration for our silver wedding (partly to make up for the cheap and cheerful wedding) and invited our family and friends. In three weeks’s time We are going to have a big party at home with a hog roast and a fancy cake for our ruby anniversary. Both times we sent invitations and made sure the family knew, not to ask for presents but to help us celebrate. The cards were nice to keep, though.

I think you have to publicise in advance.

otoole---congratulations on your Golden Anniversary.

I know how you feel---our three children not only forgot our Golden Anniversary but also our Diamond Anniversary! It hurts, doesn't it.

My mother always said she didn't want to celebrate her Golden Wedding and didn't want any cards so we all complied. When a congratulations card did not arrive for them from the Queen, however, she was very upset - she seemed to think the Queen would be all knowing! Sadly not quite - you have to let her know! So I had to find out who to write to and ask if it could be sent in retrospect which the Palace kindly agreed to and said card arrived 3 weeks late.

Imo anniversaries arefor the married couple to remembet and maybe anyone that attended not your children who came along later (in most cases). To be fair if you dont normally bother then why would you expect anyone else to. Havnt bothered with mine and usually only remembered when MIL sent a card. She's not been around for many years so the day came and went.

Although you haven't been in the habit of celebrating wedding anniversaries this is a big one nit all people reach. YANBU to be miffed. Just don't bother with any future ones for your family, they obviously don't care. Congratulations a d hope the renovations are finished soon.

I think that unless you had told your children in advance that you expected some fanfare, you are being unreasonable.

That said, I am sorry you are hurt and please accept my belated congratulations on your golden anniversary.

I think every family is different and many people keep anniversaries as a personal thing between the two of them. My parents never made a big thing of theirs and sadly my dad died a year before their silver wedding. I'm sure I would have wanted to mark that but didn't get the chance. I still remember sending a card to my grandparents for their Ruby wedding - quite an achievement as it was my grandad's second marriage after being widowed very young.
My MIL and FIL had special events for their Ruby and Golden anniversaries but they organised them and just made sure we were invited, so there was no chance of us forgetting!
I divorced before we reached any big milestone so my kids never marked our anniversary, but I send a card to my DS and DIL. Unfortunately I suspect most parents have to initiate any celebration if they want one.
Congratulations on a huge achievement and hopefully you'll find a way to celebrate together in some way.

That seems even more upsetting imo. Hope the two of you got to celebrate it yourselves anyway.

Being divorced I don't celebrate them any more, but I always send cards (no gift) to my son and daughter. My sons wife did mention they didn't bother with anniversarys, but I am of the old school I think. I sent my parents a card until my mum died, and the same with my sister. Could you book a belated meal for you, your husband and friends otoole, then at least you would have had a celebration.

Belated congratulations from me too. It's our 39th tomorrow, still a long way to go before the Golden.

As long as Mr. S. remembers I don't worry about anyone else but I can understand you feeling a little upset and hope it didn't spoil your day.

Spotted a large red sealed envelope with my name on it, on his book case earlier so looks as if he's remembered and is safe for another year.

Congratulations, and sorry that you have been upset by your children's lack of interest.

I think you said though that you had not made much of a thing of anniversaries in the past, and so it isn't surprising - unless you made them aware that it was a special anniversary that you would like acknowledged - that your children have not marked the occasion.

I didn't mark my parents' anniversaries and my parents have never marked our wedding anniversary. Neither do our children. It does not really bother me.

We've been married 47 years. We don't make a big thing about anniversaries either but we do go out for the day, or have a short break away.

YANBU to be disappointed as it is a biggie but I think you should have indicated to your family that you wanted to celebrate by inviting them round for a little party or just a cup of tea and slice of cake.