Nippy mother

Handbags at dawn. How childish. Playground sniping. Just go your own ways

Stay out of it - just be polite when you see her, but engage in nothing further. In the final analysis it matters not one whit what she might think about you and, as you say, you need to concentrate on your DGD and revel in the joy of being such an important part of her life.

I've never before had an acquaintance that needed regularly reassuring as to whether we've fallen out elegran. This is something I have no experience with and have no clue how to deal with.
Maybe I didn't react favourably by saying not this again but without going into great detail things are more stressful than they've ever been & the last thing I needed was a problem where there wasn't one.
I had spoken with her the day before, we'd arranged to meet for coffee, hardly the actions of someone who's fallen out with someone.
I've definitely learnt a lesson. Thanks for your honesty gransnetters ?

Let it go, then.

I'm not in the habit of falling out with people. Most of my friends are long standing, oldest friendship is 40+ yrs.
I have asked her why and she's choosing not to explain.
I need all my energy for dgd, not playground politics

Perhaps she too feels that, " It's draining tiptoeing around someone in case you say something they could misconstrue." and between you a molehill has been turned into a mountain?

Perhaps she thinks you are a rather upsettable type and thinks she has to tiptoe around you.

'Discussing the first'..... stupid auto correct!

I did elegran.
When I asked why she felt like this she didn't have an explanation. It's draining tiptoeing around someone in case you say something they could misconstrue.
After the first incident she accused me of discussing the it with a friend of mine who then blocked her on fb! None of that happened!

So tell her you aren't upset with HER, just a bit botheted by things with your granddaughter!

I just cannot see what or why she thinks I'm upset! I had arranged coffee with her the day before so was completely baffled.
I really am having a hard time with dge and had shared this with her.
I think you're right tanith I'm going to keep myself to myself.

You sounded fairly nippy yourself, meanashy when you responded "NOT THIS AGAIN!!" to being asked whether she had upset you (again) after your "having it out with her" over an earlier FB post which may indeed have been nothing to do with you. Are you normally so volatile?

The previous episode was months ago and had been sorted out, but if she felt you were still sensitive about it, maybe she was just making sure that all was well between you? Perhaps a better answer might have been "No, you have done nothing. It is just circumstances."

all sounds very infantile to me why not keep yourself to yourself and don't get involved in childish school playground politics. politics.