Wasted effort

If they knew you were preparing lunch then I think they were down right rude!!
You are justified in being cross.

I may well have said "bring your own sandwiches next time". I would not have allowed them to get away with what I call rudeness, knowing how much time, work, effort and money you had put into it.

That would have been the last meal I ever prepared for them unless I received a grovelling apology.

I think you were very restrained, apricot!
How inconsiderate of them.

Love your handle by the way !
A little ((HUG)) for you !

That is very rude of them.

Had they known that you were going to be cooking a meal for them, apricot?

I wonder if your granddaughter was embarrassed by her partner's rudeness? She may not have shown it in front of you. I would definitely not cook for them again, if they haven't eaten on another occasion, suggest they take you to the pub.

And in answer to your question, no, you were TOO reasonable.

I'd have made them eat it.

How, merlot???

If they were coming for a meal it was appallingly rude to eat on the way. I would definitely not bother another time, tea and biscuits at most I think!

Oh apricot that's so hurtful, not to mention tactless and ill-mannered.

Very rude and thoughtless.

I think you where treated very badly and would have found it hard to be so restrained in what you did say,very rude indeed.

Maybe next time ask them to be clear about whether they wish to eat; talk about what they like, what the children like etc. Focus their minds on it so they cannot possibly forget that you will be cooking for them. Don't give up on it! I a sure it was lovely to see them anyway.

Very rude and hurtful and a bit worrying. Did your granddaughter not feel confident enough to say to her partner to wait as you were preparing a meal?

Hope that being able to tell us all about this and the support have helped ease your upset.

That was extremely rude and you were very restrained. I expect the children demanded BigM's en route.

Demanded and got!

Rather rude. I posted something similar last year. My daughter and son in law came here for lunch. It was a lovely day, we went to a lot of trouble, shopping, cooking, setting up all the garden furniture etc. When they arrived, it was obvious that they couldn't get away quick enough. I subsequently found out that after they had accepted our invitation, they had had a 'better offer' from some friends. It's was very hurtful. I haven't asked them since. I think they have a pecking order and we are at the bottom (that's if we are on it at all).

Good advice here, and yes, I'd have been hurt too.

But I remembered an occasion about fifteen years ago when some Sikh friends of ours invited us for 'a drink and a small bite'. The time was 9.00pm so we assumed they meant what they said and we had our dinner, albeit a small one at 7.00. When we arrived the coffe table was spread with samosas, pakoras and other delights and we really enjoyed them. At 11.30 we got up to leave and Surinder said 'Oh, but we haven't had dinner yet'. And next door in the dining room was the most amazing spread you could imagine. We did our best but failed do do justice to all the effort.

It just goes to show that everyone needs to be very clear about what an invitation means.

I would be hurt too apricot.

Outrageous behaviour. You should have a quiet word with your GD and suggest that an apology is in order.

You haven't seen my death stare, Ana

Three years ago I had to eat two Christmas dinners. Thankfully they were four hours apart but it took some doing.

KatyK I would have done some straight talking there.