Grandchild name

I know 2 boys called Sunny (or it could be Sonny ) and it suits them down to the ground. My favourite is a chap I met in Mexico called Rainbow. His surname was Skye. What a lovely image and it sounds good too. Getting off the point here. Sorry.

I was beginning to think the same Aka

Marion Morrison was better knwn by his stage name of John Wayne. Being christened 'Marion' didn't do him any harm. I think I'd have been a tad upset if my granddaughter had been called Ermintrude but would have learned to live with that too
Just wonder if we're being wound up here?

My hippie cousin called his first born son Sunshine. they lived in a commune with babies called Daisy, Star, Moon - you can imagine. Sunny is now in his 40's, he is an accountant. At 5, he started at the village school, along with Daisy and co - but Sunny came home one day and announced he'd be called Danny, thank you very much, and so it came to pass. It's one of those things ermintrude, we don't own our children and they make their own choices. I hope the comments on here haven't been too harsh - if your post is genuine that is

I have to admit I wouldn't be too happy if my baby grandson was called something really girly as it would cause confusion right through his life. Why would a parent deliberately set a child up like that?

Thanks gillybob I knew it was someone famous just bear with me until I have had my 3rd and the brain will kick into gear.

Ashley or Ashleigh
Lee or Leigh
Lesley or Leslie
Marion
Pat
Lou
Jo or Joe
Shirley
Chris
Jackie

Come on there must be more.......

Having read through this thread I have to admit to sympathy with ermintrude, not over her views on the name of the baby; IMHO it has to be the choice of the parents, but because the full weight of Gransnet Disapproval has fallen on her shoulders.

It started gently and reasonably but has built up momentum and anger until some words which I wanted to report. Poor ermintrude who appears to be a 'new member' took courage in both hands and opened her heart - this is obviously hurting her badly - has had the full weight of Gransnet thrown at her. I feel sure ermintrude is perfectly capable of sticking up for herself but personally I think everyone is GOTT

Yes, you are being totally unreasonable. Are you going to tell us what the name is ? Whatever the baby is called it seems to me that you are the first one to cause the problem that you are so 'worried' about.

I think you might be getting mucpxed ip with John Wayne glammanana I believe his real name was Marion something or other. Johnny Cash was apparently nameless and known only as JR Cash until he enlisted in the army where he was forced to put a name to the initials and became John(ny) . All fascinating stuff.

gillybob or his real name of Marion ? then there is Big Daddy a wrestler from a while ago his name was Shirley (something) maybe Crabtree ?

There was a wrestler called Shirley Crabtree aka Big Daddy!

Oh dear Ermintrude I do hope it isn't ..............

www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1BJfDvSITY

Ermintrude,as far as I'm concerned cornishsue put it beautifully.

What your son and dil call their baby is none of your business, how would you have felt if your mother had reacted like that when you had your child?
I feel pity too, but not for the baby.

How sad that you say you would look at this baby with pity Are you sure that there is not a control issue going on here ? and to mention money is not a good path to follow you will surely make sure that your son and DIL do not bring your DGS to visit if you do not apologise to them,we have an Ashley and an Adrian in our family and they are all fine boys and I kid you not one of DS2s friends friends at school yrs ago was called Hanibal,then I think you would have had reason to be up-set but still it's the name the parents picked and he is a fine young man.

We know someone with twin girls one of whom is called Sydney. It has never been a problem to anyone least of all to Sydney herself.

We also had neighbours called Chris and Bev. Chris was the lady and Bev (Beverley ) was the man. Again no problem.

Perhaps the money lending issue is clouding your reaction to the baby's name? I can only agree with all the other posters. Get a grip and accept.

A form of abuse? You've got to be kidding, ermintrude.

Get a grip and embrace your lovely grandson with love, not pity.

Yes, you are being unreasonable

As the really proud 'Ma' to an adorable 5 month old named Persephone, but called Persie, (who could not be called anything else now) I think you are being entirely unreasonable and you risk joining the ranks of grandparents who are banned from seeing their grandchildren. I suggest you read the many threads on here, think about the real sadness there and, as lots of people have said, buy the most enormous bouquet and grovel.

If your issue is really about the money I suggest you raise that as a separate topic.

Having read your post again I see you wrote that you can only look at the baby with pity. WOW, just WOW. Pity? WOW, all I see when I look at my baby grandson is that I have never loved anyone more and he is the most precious person in all our lives. My heart practically bursts with love. I really hope your DS and DIL do not know that, because if I were one of them I would not want you to be part of my child's life.

My SIL's mother chose the birth of his son as the time to criticise him for a decision that was 100% his to make, and he was so upset and angry that she has never seen his son. Maybe at another time they could have worked things out, but feelings run so deep after the birth of his son, and he was incredulous she caused a rift at that time by daring to criticise his and my daughter's decision.

Pity - WOW!

Ermintrude, I am sorry but I find your attitude completely unreasonable. As grandparents it is absolutely nothing to do with us what our children decide to name their children. It was our choice when we came to name our own children, now it their time. It does not matter how outrageous the name may seem to you, we are a different generation and will have our own ideas. Don't you love your son unconditionally, don't you support his right to make his own decisions, don't you want the birth of his child to be the most amazingly, magical time? Don't you want just to share in the joy of his son's birth, don't you just feel love and pride?

Mostly though I just cannot understand why you would want to cause a rift at this, the most precious of times. Having a grandchild is the most wonderful thing in the world, and our 'job' is to support whatever our children decide, not just on a name but on any decision they make. I just cannot understand why you would fall out with your son at the most important time of his life. I do not know if you have other grandchildren, but if so surely you would not wish to cause a rift, how can you even think of anything but the overwhelming sense of love and joy and happiness that a grandchild brings. I think you could have created a problem for yourself - I think if I were your DS or DIL I would always remember how you, at what should be the most wonderful time when your heart should be bursting with pride and joy and happiness, had instead had a disagreement. It might seem unfair but I think you may have done great harm to your relationship. Maybe I am unreasonable myself, but if I were your DS or DIL I would always remember the fly in the ointment at the time of great joy, I think that underneath I would not properly be able to forgive.

Sorry, I just think whatever the name, you are being both totally unreasonable, and on your DS and DIL's behalf I feel angry. How can you possibly do this to them? I would suggest the real problem is the money you have lent, but even so I would be completely furious you created a disagreement at this time.

I would buy the largest bouquet of flowers and beg forgiveness for being totally and completely unfair, unreasonable and unkind.

Oh and btw I am looking after my precious baby grandchild today - and he has a girl's name! I can't possibly imagine him called anything else now.

We have one male friend called Val, short for Valentine, and another called Vivian, and no one remarks or finds it odd. And Leslie's coming back, I'm told. You need to get over it and love the little one. And let's face it, if a child hates their own name they soon change it to a nickname which they are happy with.

The cow in the MagicRoundabout was rather silly, I seem to remember, though nice as well.

Don't complain when they don't bring the child to visit you ermintrude. YABU to expect to be 'consulted' about a grandchild's name. YABU to feel nothing but pity for a child who has a name you don't like. YABU to be such a grump about something so silly.

You did ask.

Actually, I think you are kidding. Nobody's that daft.

surely?

I do not expect to choose a name. But I also did not expect them to choose a girls name which will cause a great deal of upset to the child throughout his life.

I only wanted to warn my son of what might happen. I consider it a form of abuse to give the child such an unsuitable name. At least I know that I tried to warn him.

It is nothing like Hilary, Robin Charlie or Evelyn.

I cannot even bear thinking of the harm to the child. I would only be able to look at the child now with pity.

He owes me a great deal of money already yet have extended their house without asking me if I wanted my stake back. So no way are they getting any flowers from me.

They seem to have consulted her parents regarding the name, but not me.

Is it Hilary , Robin , Charlie or Evelyn ? All great names for both sexes.