Wanting to hold onto our little bit of money?

number the thing is, your son can't afford it (unless you go halvies) and neither can you and hubby (unless you spend your savings). So the answer is sorry, son, no can do.

If your husband still wants to go ahead I would stress to him the amount of driving he would have to do, the busy roads during school holidays, having to go to places that teenagers like which will be busy and noisy and not the least bit relaxing.

Blimey, all those replies whilst I`ve been composing mine! I agree with all of you. Our son does know about our financial situation, he says not to worry about funeral costs, they`ll come out of the sale of the house! I just need to convince hubby that we shouldn`t do it.

Sel, those are my thoughts exactly, but I know that our son will think we`re being spoilsports if we don`t go along with it. I don`t even know where his share of the money would come from, he never has 2 ha`pennies to rub together, and is notorious for borrowing and getting into debt. He says if we get to the stage when we don`t want to go caravanning anymore, they`ll buy us out of our share, but what with?

Also number, you'll be tied down to having holidays in school holiday time with them, which means the traffic will be awful. And if the boys are teenagers how long will it be before they won't go on holiday with their parents? Not long I would think. It's a complete no no. You've phoned a friend [well, several ] and that's our final answer.

I agree, number. Perhaps your son thinks you have more disposable cash than you actually do, but in any event that's a big caravan and they'd presumably expect you to go along with their holiday plans. You deserve a bit more consideration, IMO.

I agree with Sel - my Brother (67) has a motorhome, so isn't as big as the caravan you are looking at and he has said he can't see himself driving it for much longer.

Your son is being unfair asking you to contribute (especially as he won't be doing any driving!) but to be fair to him perhaps he is unaware of your financial position.

numberplease Tell him firmly but kindly that you cannot afford it. Anyway as he and his wife are not prepared to tow it why are they even expecting you to share it with them. You know that is the situation, why do you find it difficult to say that to your son?

Oh numberplease I wouldn't even consider it. I'm sorry but I don't think it's fair that your son even suggested it. Obviously the problems that are concerning you won't go away. Your husband will find it increasingly hard and I can't imagine a holiday with two teenage boys would be relaxing. Not to mention that your nest egg would be gone. The caravan will depreciate so the money has gone, finito.