bad language

bags I love your approach with DD its so refreshing

Stupid is a banned word with the two DGD I live with

BTW, the funniest bit on this thread was the suggestion that jings and I are the same person, or related. So funny. Whoever thought that has not been paying attention over the last year or so, eh jings? Haha! #pastcaring

You've changed Bags #doesn'tgiveatoss!

I have changed. And jings has helped with that (she should understand the #pastcaring, I'm hoping ), as have other gransnetters. It is about being brave and being oneself because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter won't mind.

Thank you, You Lot!

Bravo Bags!

Anyone else feeling that way out this weekend? C'mon, let's have you - I do like a bolshie woman who tells it like it is

I think that has to be true Bags.

Go Bags

And here is a hilarious use of That Word that I found:

"My husband recently bought me a mood ring so that he can monitor my moods. We've discovered that when I'm in a good mood it turns green, and when I'm in a bad mood it leaves a big red mark on his f()cking forehead."

Toodle pip for today, gransnetters. Sweet dreams . And thank you all for being such fun.

BAGS

Very good.

Patronising or what?!

That hasn't appeared in the right place!

It was in response to the scouts /cubs anecdote post!!

Help, help, it's all kicking off again!

It can only kick off if they get past this bloody great big bouncer I am posting at the door of this thread!

State your business before entering, otherwise join me in the pub down the road

We're all in too good a mood for anyone to start a fight!

Shoved my way past the bouncer (not really; I'm so respectable-looking, he didn't give me a second glance) just to say hello to mey. Hello mey, nice to meet you. Hope you enjoy gransnet as much as I do

I don't think that I would call the post about the cubs/scouts patronising agapanthus but it does ignore the fact that many people find the f-word and c-word offensive in any context in public. For example, I am old-fashioned enough to be very put out by anyone using the second of these in my presence and it's not just oldies; I know absentdaughter dislikes it as much as I do.

I dislike them too. Why do you think I stopped the cubs and scouts from effing at each other? If I didn't care, I would have left them too it. Mind you, for me it is about 'how' words are used rather than what words, as I've said before. The distinction highlighted in the cubs anecdote is important. A mere expletive to release stress is quite different from abuse aimed at someone else. And a joke is a joke is a joke. Humour always pushes at the boundaries of what is 'acceptable'. That's its strength.

People find all sorts of things offensive (many of them not intrinsically offensive things). We can't let that limit what we can talk about. That way unreasoned censorship lies.

So, essentially, my view is that finding such four-letter words offensive in any context (i.e. even when they aren't used offensively) is just tough, like lots else in life.

While the mushroom soup for our Oban archery picnic warms up, I've come back to say that I can see that the By'eck line at the end of my cub story above could be read as patronising.

My defence is that I'm from Yorkshire originally, and it was meant light-heartedly

Why the hell am I defending myself? Bags'd better bugger off.

PS my usual expletive, just in case anyone is wondering is "Bother!" I'm just arguing (that is, discussing) the subject from a point of view because it's fun. It's also what I really think – it's silly (yes, I do think that) to take offence where none is intended. If that's patronising, so be it.

when (20.41) and B (20.34) - Couldn't agree more. #learningtobeabolshybutty.

BolshyButty! Love it!

bolshy

Bags...yes it was the closing comments not what you said to the children! We are becoming inured to aggressive and obscene language by constant exposure.
Children cease to be shocked ny violence and pornography for the same reason. They are the adults of tomorrow !Sorry,I just don't buy this "we are all adults" bit .