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celebgran Thu 24-Jan-13 17:53:50

is it necessary to use 4 letter words on this forum?

I find it quite sad if that is the case. It looks so harsh in print.

We all swear more I think nowadays but still do not like it, expect I am old fashioned.

numberplease Thu 24-Jan-13 23:37:08

On one forum I go on, it isn`t possible to write the football team Arsenal, comes up as a load of asterisks! On another, if a rude word is used to describe someone, it`s changed to "jolly silly person".

Ana Thu 24-Jan-13 23:12:25

grin

j07 Thu 24-Jan-13 22:49:37

Don't get the idea that I go around swearing all the time. Normally I don't. Just when stressed. I don't consider it a big deal.

I enjoy swearing on here. It can add something to a post. smile

j07 Thu 24-Jan-13 22:47:38

My grandsons have been known to come out with the odd one or two. Learned off their granny no doubt. So long as it's not within hearing of their mum or dad we're ok.

grannyactivist Thu 24-Jan-13 22:32:09

Just for interest's sake, do those who feel comfortable with swearing also feel comfortable with their/other people's children using swear words?

Deedaa Thu 24-Jan-13 22:26:50

I find the use of four letter words as a sort of punctuation very depressing, especially when some people seem to have a very limited vocabulary of longer words. (Yes I do use them myself, usually when I'm alone and swearing at myself.) But I did love Malcolm Tucker in The Thick of It, the way his swearing took flight and became a new art form. It was a use of language way beyond the average hoodie on a street corner.

Elegran Thu 24-Jan-13 22:23:56

If anyone reading it is able to fill in the blanks, the rude word is in their mind, not the poster's.

We innocent ones know that F**k stands for flak, doesn't it? As in "Get the flak out of here" - ie, "Go away and take the explosives with you" or "He f****d up the job good and proper" ie, "He demolished it, just like shooting it down"

petallus Thu 24-Jan-13 22:05:10

I object to Granny23's rude soup grin

If we put a * or two in is it still a rude word?

glassortwo Thu 24-Jan-13 21:53:02

grin

Granny23 Thu 24-Jan-13 21:50:37

I remember being barred from posting 'cock-a-leekie' soup on Martins Money Tips recipe section. Somehow 'male hen & leek' soup does not have the same ring to it wink

baubles Thu 24-Jan-13 21:50:15

I often think 'ffs' in my head, seldom actually say it except when 'venting' and even then usually when I'm alone in a room.

Because I do use it so infrequently it certainly has an impact on anyone within earshot.

The 'c' word, used as an insult, is extremely offensive to me but I have used it once in a scrabble game after giving an 'extreme sweary word' warning! grin

annodomini Thu 24-Jan-13 21:29:25

I'm not offended by swearing, but simply bored with it. There's so much of it around that it just washes over me. English is a wonderful language with a huge and rich vocabulary - why not make full use of it rather than fall back on the same few obscenities to convey anger, frustration or irritation?

Anne58 Thu 24-Jan-13 21:27:41

Worried now that I may have used it, good chance that I have at some point. blush

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 21:15:45

And celeb has it spot on when she says that what offends some doesn't offend others. So, there lies the rub – who decides what is or isn't offensive? Better to leave things open and free.

Besides, there isn't a swearing problem on GN.

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 21:13:32

When people say "offended", I often wonder if what they really mean is that something makes then feel uncomfortable. I've read plenty of stuff on Gransnet that makes me uncomfortable, and plenty of stuff I dislike. As grown ups I think we ought to be able to deal with a bit of discomfort without feeling the need for censorship. #freespeechandfreely

merlotgran Thu 24-Jan-13 21:11:08

The fact that I'm not offended by the very occasional appearance of the f word on here does not mean I lack standards, celebgran.

celebgran Thu 24-Jan-13 21:05:06

just a question of standards rather than being grown ups merlotgran, just the reverse if we feel need for expletives could not agree more jaineainsworth but I must stress each to his own.

What offends some does not others we are all different.grin

merlotgran Thu 24-Jan-13 20:44:22

Why should anything be deleted. We're all grown ups.....aren't we? hmm

glassortwo Thu 24-Jan-13 20:36:58

grin grin your right ana

Ana Thu 24-Jan-13 20:33:21

celeb have you ever looked at Mumsnet? If they deleted our swear words they'd have to delete theirs - there wouldn't be much of some posts left! grin

janeainsworth Thu 24-Jan-13 20:29:53

I don't think you rattled anyone Celeb. smile
I have to admit to frequent verbal use of b*gg*r, bl**dy, sh*t and even s*d, but I don't like to hear the F-word or the C-word spoken out loud.
I know that in medieval times the usage was different, but I think that the increasing use of these particular words by young men in recent years is a symptom of increasing misogyny in our society, which has manifested itself in a very ugly way this week in the internet abuse of Prof Mary Beard, as discussed on the other thread.

celebgran Thu 24-Jan-13 20:24:02

just puzzled it is not deleted like most Forums really Bags.

Bags Thu 24-Jan-13 20:22:57

Puzzled rather than rattled, celeb. Swearing is used so seldom on GN it's hardly noticeable. No harm in giving the subject an airing now and then though.

celebgran Thu 24-Jan-13 20:15:38

interesting, thanks for you comments, always remember our english teacher saying yonks ago similar to harrigran the dictionary is full of other words and swearing is form of laziness, just seems on unecessary on a forum but of course that is just my opinion.

have to admit to swearing quite a bit when rattled with dear OH AND others just hate to see it in print and never think it is necessary as said above.

Thanks ladies sorry if rattled anyone.

absent Thu 24-Jan-13 20:15:30

Elegran Regardless of the vocabulary used, how often do nuns discuss copulation?