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Grandchild dislikes me

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GrannyLaine Mon 08-Nov-21 17:42:28

Try not to take it personally DonnaB5959. You don't say how old your grandchild is but there's no rhyme nor reason with the way they allocate their affection. I had to serve a very long apprenticeship with one of my oldest grandsons who had a very secure attachment to his parents (a very positive thing) but we got there in the end. Don't try too hard and don't comment on it, children hate to be cornered like that. Our three year old granddaughter adores her Grandpa and I come a poor second but its such a joy to see the pair of them, it really doesn't matter.

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Hithere Mon 08-Nov-21 17:35:51

How old is he?

I think you could be expecting too much with wanting friendship with your gc.

Dial it down, do things he enjoys.
Maybe you are coming you too strong?

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DonnaB5959 Mon 08-Nov-21 17:10:10

He won’t take my hand, sit beside me, and tells me about how much he loves other grandparents (yes, I did ask if he would treat his other grandparents that way). He is totally in love with his paternal grandmother and maternal grandfather. His words hurt. I have tried asking him why we are not friends, and he sort of shrugs. I am gutted. Due to ongoing health issues I have not been able to be as present as I would have liked, but when we are together I make a serious effort without going overboard-yet remain persona non grata. How to handle? What to do? I cannot promise to be there more as my health issues won’t allow that. Bereft.

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