Christmas money for grown up grandkids

I think an age limit is a good idea otherwise it gets out of control. We have 21 as an age for extended family. More is spent on GC now - still very young. And still get DC gifts but ask them to make a list. DGC get a book, a gift and clothes usually.

As an extended family we only give gifts ? to two categories :-
In full time education or SEN . Currently 3 nieces and 1 SIL to buy for .

The money that my husband and I would have spent on each other goes to buying gifts for teenage boys in our local town. They attract the fewest donations in the annual charity collection.

That is a good idea Notagran.

so madmother gives her AC £1000 each for christmas, that is nice but beware of the continuing expectation every year, it will be a difficult habit to break

I give my dgc £30 each in cash for christmas and birthdays. I expect I will stop when they leave home but will always be ready to step in and help out if needed. Getting a thank you is important to me, my sons in law never said thank for sent presents, so I don`t send them anything now, just a card.

I'm still trying to work out if my almost 40 year old daughter would be devastated not to receive an Advent Calendar.

It's very tricky. I've always given equal, ( as equal as can be) to all my children/grandchildren

But you have to work with how much money you have and if you're struggling, maybe just point out that money is scarce and the gifts, be they monetary or not, will be less substantial this year.

My six siblings all have children, we stopped buying presents for each other or the children in 1978, everyone agreed and relaxed. It was a ridiculous number of presents