Apologies

Chewbacca -** kind disclaimer** On here and like everyone else who posts online, my posts are strictly opinionated. If you need accredited advice very kindly follow up with a licensed individual.

Madgran77 your case scenario is obviously different, that's why I continuously use the word "some cases." An apology is obviously not warranted in the case an AC under "control." - Just reflect on whether its presumptive or factual control.

But, seeing as LLL has resurrected her thread, could I please ask again "what is your accreditation to be able to give so much advice"? -- I did ask weeks ago but never got a reply--.

I can’t believe this has been revived.
Are we really so hard up for discussion material or does Live, Laugh, Laiove really feel there is anything more worth saying

LLL Ofcourse "AC will decide how they choose to live their lives and whom they choose to have a healthy relationship with"!! You appear to be assuming that in every case there must be something a parent has done to cause it! Do you agree that in some cases it may be that a partner of an AC wishes to CO because they do not want to "share" their partner or they want to have control. In a controlling relationships it is very common to cut off the controlled partner from their family, for no other reason than control!
It would be interesting to know whether you have personally experienced CO in some form, although I accept that you have free choice on whether you reply to that query or not!
I should add that I am not CO from my children so am not trying to say "I don't know what I did" or " negate accountability" or justify any "sense of entitlement!"

AC will continue to live their lives as they please and choose whom they decide to have a healthy relationship with. Even God whose above all and who gave you children to bear does not force Himself onto their lives. He gives you a choice to either love Him or not. Why would anyone feel the need to disrespect their AC choice? You hurt your kids under the guise of, "I only did it out off love." But its easier to say you don't know what you did for that would negate any accountability on your end. Cutting off parents is nothing new, its being going on for centuries, only difference is that now people are not afraid to speak out on it. If you're too proud to appologise and think that time will eventually heal the rift, it won't. Some attitudes on here carry a heavy sense of entitlement. Then you wonder why your cut off. Honor your mother and father does not mean that one has to put up with their disrespect. In fact cutting one off is at times more respectful than engaging in back and forth insults with your own parents, or having them charged for abuse, harassment and stalking. But some parents feel they in their own right are entitled to do these things and get away with it for they are parents. But playing victim (for some) is always the easier way out.

Yoga, tbh I hope it's made up.

Is it a real story though [?] sounds too far fetched to me and if it is real... OMG! not surprised at the son's reaction!

I don't think even one of LLL's numbered apologies could fix what the letter writer and wife did

Well, it is Agony MawBroon!
(the thread)

gummybearrs I was also stunned re the letter writers behaviour ...!!

I must stop looking at it!

This thread has gone on for soooooooooo very long.

The “Agony Aunt”?

I'm confused - who is the same person?

I posted the link because I was absolutely gobsmacked at the conduct of the letter writer...

Same negativity. Same blank and white opinions. Same person, I reckon.

Same person? ???

Was sent this link and has to drop it here as an example of "Yeah I Don't Think An Apology Is Going To Be Enough" (top story in the article)

Cringed as I read it

www.thestar.com/life/advice/2018/02/24/cut-off-from-grandchildren-after-cruel-comment-ask-ellie.html

Moving on......

I accept your apology unconditionally Maw. In fact I am grateful to you for pointing out my lack of attention to your post of 9th March. In my defence, after the first couple of posts my interest in this thread has been confined to wondering if it is still continuing ...

Just thought ... could this be the start of another strand? Acceptance of apologies - types of ...

To start - my acceptance is an apology through gritted teeth, tempered with a touch of sarcasm
defensiveness realisation that you are quite right.

I apologise for my lack of attentiveness.

(To avoid any misunderstanding Maw all of the above is tongue in cheek. )

sincerely offered Maw. But will it be accepted?

I apologise that I spotted something which you took a further 9 days to notice. Sincerely.

Number 10 seems to be a catchall kind of apology, would that do Maw?

Oh MawBroon I think that needs an apology. You have 21 to choose from.