Hairdressers

I know the feeling. I now have a hairdresser that I trust so I am able to just leave it to her- it cuts out the worry.

The problem is that by the time I start feeling uneasy it's too late.....
I have luckily found a new hairdresser who listens, but it's taken a couple of not-so-good cuts first

I was very upset when I came back from this last visit from my hairdressers. Hated the way it looked. Vowed not to go there again.

Wished it next morning, blew it dry quickly and it just fell into place beautifully. It's always the same, he does a great cut but cannot blow dry a decent style.

I'm going to take my courage into both hands and do what several of his clients already do - after the cut, they simply blow dry it themselves in the salon.

I have had the same hairdresser for over thirty years. In all that time she has never given me a bad cut, but when blow drying my hair recently, she always lays my fringe on the wrong side. I've never said anything, because the minute I wash it, it falls the way I want it to anyway, but on Friday, I finally asked her to lay the fringe the other side and she agreed it looked better. "Why didn't you say something before?" She asked. "Because you're the one with the sharp pointy scissors!" I said. I hate all the brush drying too and haven't yet had the nerve to say just blow it dry and I'll put a brush through it because that's what I do at home!

Greyduster more and more people are actually drying it themselves at the salon. After a cut, the hairdresser rubs any product s/he would normally use on the hair in, then hands the customer a hairbrush and the dryer and goes away

I was watching several customers doing this so I'm going to ask to do it myself next time. It also saves money.

Falconbird why not pop back and tell her how unhappy you were - no-one wants to lose a customer she will probably be happy to have another look at it.

I have lots of hairdressers over the year and have got really fed up with people who juts want to attack my thick curly hair with the tinning scissors then flatten it with the straighteners. My current hairdresser is an woman of mature years who retrained and is much better at understanding how I want to look.

This was my experience of hairdressers too - hence my decision to grow my hair and just steer clear of the lot of them. Every time I had it cut I had to come home and wash it and trim bits and generally sort it out!

One even suggested to me that my grey-free dark brown hair was too dark and I should put highlights in it - I told her that some people would given their right arm to have dark brown hair still in their mid-60s and that I had no intention of letting her loose with the bleach!

I also don't go to the hairdresser same as Mishap I'd come home , wash it , snip it and blow dry my way, we used to have a lovely girl who came to the house and cut both mine and my daughters but she moved and since then my granddaughter has cut it... she did 2yrs at beauty school doing hairdressing then decided she hated it but she'll cut mine, its not perfect I'm sure but it saves me from having to go and she's happy with the tenner I give her every time she says 'Nan you don't have to do that'. Then I say 'oh just buy lunch tomorrow with it', and she takes it with a grin. .

I have had many terrible hair experiences over the years. I always said 'yes it's lovely thank you' then went home and cried.
No such worries now as my hair has all gone

I've had the same woman cut mine for the past 10-15 yrs. I never have it blow dried at the salon because my hair is so fine and thin it's dry by the time she's finished cutting.
When I blow dry and use products at home it looks great for about half an hour then just falls flat.

Sorry to hear you have lost your hair, KatyK. However, as you say, at least you have no more worries about going to the hairdresser.

I've only recently discovered that you can have your hair rough-dried after a cut/colour (ie a quick blast with the hairdryer), so that's what I do in the winter. In the summer I just go out wet. I hate all that blow drying nonsense and then I just go home and wash it and do it my way.

The other thing I hate is that Indian head massage type thing they do after they have washed it. I keep telling myself to say 'don't so that' but so far I have not had the nerve.

katyk My hair is thinning on the top and I hate going to the hairdresser because I think everyone is looking at my hair loss.

It started after I had a lot of cap highlights in my fifties but it may be hereditary because my mum had the same problem.

Falcon; Hothair do pieces that just attach to the crown of the head [also fringes that do the same]. I can't use them because my hair is so thin and fine that I can't afford to lose the tiny amount of hair that comes out when you unclip them. Bouffe spray really does thicken the hair at the roots [although it tends to make my scalp itch]. But I have just bought a short bob wig; haven't had the courage to wear it yet though. It's so short that, instead of feeling that I'm wearing hair I feel as if I'm putting on a hat. It doesn't help that I have a very high forehead so need a fringe, but my fringe is so thin you can hardly see it. I'd be better off using the fringe hair to cover my crown. My mum also had the same; she put it down to having lots of perms .

Thank you nottooold. I have harped on about it many times on Gransnet (there is a blog on it) - Falconbird, - sorry to hijack your thread. I'm sorry you are not happy with your latest visit to the hairdresser and I hope it grows out quickly for you.

Falconbird; just a thought but I wonder if your hairdresser felt that the cut she gave you suited you better and disguised the fact that your hair was thinning? I'm only saying that because, when I tried on several wigs it was only by looking at the photos I'd taken of myself wearing them that made me realise that the shortest one suited me far more than the chin length one that I'd planned to buy.

I like my hair very short, having a small round face! My hairdresser never cuts it short enough. I have only just managed to ask her to cut a bit more off recently. If she thinks it is not appropriate she tells me the reason. It is great to have found a hairdresser I can actually talk to.

My hair frizzes unless it is blow dried, which I also dislike because the hairdresser tugs at it.

At home I have a hot air brush that turns round. It's a great invention! x

I now speak up at the hairdresser..... especially convincing her to thin it a bit more at the back of the ears.

If she dries and gets that brush turning, I fix it when I get home giving it a tweek or two to rough it up. Often I ask her to just rough tousle it, a bit of gel, and I'm ready to go.
And it actually is fine, and really is good to go.

If hairdresser has dried it with brushes it's hard to tell if it's just right until you've washed it yourself. Mine is happy for me to drop in without notice and have her do an 'adjustment'. Thin a bit here or there.... make my fringe a little more angular etc. etc.

Tegan yes I think my hairdresser was being kind she was concentrating very hard when she was doing the trim.

I'm going to grow out the few layers she's put in and try to be more assertive next time. I have a lot of hair where it hasn't thinned and try to make the most of that.

The only plus point is that my hair is a nice shade of grey and quite a few people have commented on that.

It's strange hair in that if it's too short it curls but below ear lobe level it goes straight.

KatyK sorry about your hair. I haven't seen anything about it before on GN, but there are days when I'm hardly on here at all so must have missed that.

They speak a special language that I have never learned to decode. Probably not going to now.
I have a newish one, called Bailey (I kid you not) who is about 18 and uses a word I do understand: perimeter

Anya - Thank you. I actually have beautiful thick hair, it's just not growing out of my head! I have a hair system. There is a blog called
Female Hair Loss on here. It's becoming quite a problem according to the clinic I attend. Anyway, back to hairdressers......

Blog here: www.gransnet.com/blogs/female-hair-loss

Thanks GA I'll read that now.