Posting on threads to put them down

I know a couple of people who log in but no longer post simply because of the small minority who do this. We all know the majority of GNs are reasonable and supportive but there do seem to be some who delight in putting people down.

I think also it is how people say things, yes, there is a terrible war in Ukraine, yes we all know terrible things happen over her and in the world, but we all get on with our lives, we have different threads like style and beauty which posters contribute too, in RL we discuss the weather, life goes on.
I feel the posters who go on to a thread and say not interested, not a 3rd world problem, or get a life, are rude, as they can ignore the post and not comment. Life goes on and we all talk and write about everyday things. I am not perfect, but some posters feel they have a right to be dismissive.

I have seen this happen and just think it's a waste of time and effort to get involved in a thread you have no interest in. It can disrupt the thread for others who are interested in the discussion so it is rude.

I"ve wondered about this myself. Contorted 'power' of anonimity? Think their opinion is important rather than simp!y interesting?

Basic rudeness. If I’m not interested in a topic, I simply don’t post. Life is too short. But we all know people who behave like that in the flesh. I just ignore them.

Uually I think it is a form of virtue signalling, 'You may be intersted in what every one eats for breakfast', for example, 'but I am above such trivial interests'

And the other putdown such people enjoy 'First world problem'

I just feel sorry for such people. If the only enjoyment you can get from life is putting down people, who you do not know, your own life must be pretty desperate.

Beswitched
If you ask for opinions on AIBU, that’s what your going to get.
Some you’ll agree with, some you don’t.
It would be very boring if everyone agreed.

It’s playground bully syndrome. Difficult to ignore but standing up for yourself and others simply feeds their feeling of superiority.

I tend to just walk away these days. Life’s too short……

Yes I think if you ask for opinions dont be surprised if there are some you dont like.

I think they do it as a way of Putting People In Their Place.
It's nearly always old timers who do this thing of disrupting threads.
Its like a dog p*****g on their territory.
A case of,
"you might think this thread is going well but don't forget that I call the shots around here and I can mess this whole thread up if I want"

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

What a good point Beswitched I started a post about a travel blog which I thought was very interesting. I was criticised the rest of the post purely based on the person presenting the programme. Who people find unpleasant I watched it because it was an interesting travel programme.

If people disliked the presenter so much why did they bother watching it. I actually pick and choose what to post now based on that experience which wasn’t very nice. I also don’t get back to a post when I see nasty remarks people make for whatever reason.

Caused by an inflated ego combined with a perceived lack of attention.

MerylStreep

Beswitched
If you ask for opinions on AIBU, that’s what your going to get.
Some you’ll agree with, some you don’t.
It would be very boring if everyone agreed.

I'm not talking about people giving their opinion though. I'm talking about those who come onto a thread for no other reason than to let everyone know they are not interested in the thread - usually in as rude a tone as possible. I mean, apart from it being ill mannered, why do they bother?

Are you talking about the pyjamas thread becaise thats not how I interpreted it.

Urmstongran

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

Opinions yes, put downs no. Everyone on Gransnet is equal, and it is about respect. If you are not interested in the post, dont carry on reading and dont post put downs.

No I'm not talking about any thread in particular. It's something I notice a lot on here and I have raised it on several threads.

Disagree with the OP by all means, but why just come on to announce you're bored by the topic /have more important things to worry about etc.

If you're not interested in the thread then just ignore it.

'Manners used to taketh man", but I'm afraid these days people are more likely to tell you what they really think.
Maybe we should respond by asking them what they would like to discuss.
I have worked with people like this who sighed and groaned at any conversation and called us dinosaurs. When confronted and give the chance to talk about they would like to discuss they were usually speechless.They enjoy being negative, how sad.

I think they used to makyth man !

With respect , as someone who is vaguely uncomfortable with threads which pose what I find intrusive questions, such as personal hygiene, I think I am entitled to say so.
Everybody is different, but on the whole I regard chat threads as an online equivalent of chatting with friends and these are not topics I would expect in our conversation.

Beswitched

MerylStreep

Beswitched
If you ask for opinions on AIBU, that’s what your going to get.
Some you’ll agree with, some you don’t.
It would be very boring if everyone agreed.

I'm not talking about people giving their opinion though. I'm talking about those who come onto a thread for no other reason than to let everyone know they are not interested in the thread - usually in as rude a tone as possible. I mean, apart from it being ill mannered, why do they bother?

I know what you mean.

On Facebook recently, a topic - clearly of interest to some - and a number of posters making comments along the lines of "who cares?" or "get a life".

I pointed out to one of them that they obviously 'cared' sufficiently to make a comment... and received a torrent of insults. I didn't respond. Such individuals are simply arrogant and ill-mannered and, as such, are probably best ignored. And the fact is, they do care - they care that a subject has been raised that is unimportant in their world and want you to know that they "don't care", because that's their way of telling you that you shouldn't either. If you see what I mean...

But you don't have to join in every thread Maw. Just as you don't have to join in every real life convsation.

There's lots of threads on here that deal with subjects that either don't interest me or I find uncomfortable.

But other people are entitled to discuss them without me popping in to make the OP feel bad.

Why should I do that?

I am with Beswitched. It is not a question of not liking comment that disagrees with OP, but someone who posts, just to put people down.

As I quoted going on a thread to just say 'First world problem'

Yes thats a fair point Maw, there are some threads that are started to get people to talk about bodily functions and they do need highlighting, they are usually trolls though so thats probably not what beswitched is talking about.

The best way to deal with the Troll threads is to just ignore them.

But this is behaviour I see on all sorts of threads. I was furiously berated by someone recently for posting about some ordinary dilemma because there is a war in Ukraine and I shouldn't be chatting about something so trivial.

That kind of posting, along with the arrogant 'I have better things to worry about' is rude and unpleasant.