My DH was also offered a bike if he passed the 11+. He passed the exam but never got the bike; it rankles with him to this day. I failed mine. I was hopeless at number subjects. The boy next door to us passed his. My mother was deeply upset for a while, I suppose because I was considered to be bright child in most subjects, but neither my mother or my father, by virtue of their own relative lack of education, ever thought they ought encourage me with my school work, as opposed to the BND, whose parents did, and quite right too. I agree that 'hot housing' children to pass exams is not a good thing, for the reasons stated in previous posts, but if a child is struggling with a particular subject, coaching can be beneficial if the parents are in a position to pay for it and if it would assist his or her education in general. I never felt I was particularly disadvantaged by my secondary school education. I have had good interesting jobs and travelled with them, and my cousin, who also failed his 11+ and went to the same school as me is now a retired college lecturer and was, at one point in his career, part of the British Antarctic Survey Team.