Thanks everyone - your comments are very encouraging. I agree with you Tanith but we find that the grass is very ugly after two weeks and it really gets my DH 'down'. Plus, due to neglect, we've had to have it re-turfed three times in five years so getting a professional in to do the work feels like a false economy.
The area is 4.5 x 9.5 m so it's sizeable enough to be a problem. Half of the garden is gravel. I had 3 quotes which ranged from £1,800
to £2,400, so we've decided to do it differently.
I've ordered the artificial grass, membrane, joining tape, pins and glue which together cost £666 < yikes, hope that isn't a bad omen!
I've ordered limestone as opposed to sharp sand as the sand and gravel expert told me that if I have a pet (which I do - a dog), sharp sand won't drain the urine away and it would eventually stink. So, he recommended 6mm limestone. That's on order and cost £80 for two tons.
I've had two gardeners round to quote for labour only and have accepted one. He is going to lift and remove existing (ugly) turf, compact the ground, lay the limestone then compact that. He's then going to lay the wooden batons all round the edges. For that work he's going to charge £350 and that includ s removing all debris. The edging wood is another £40.
That only leaves laying the membrane and the artificial grass and two of my three sons are going to come for the weekend after next to lay these.
In total, doing it this way, the cost is still quite high but is far less than the original quotations.
So, if my calculations are correct, the total will be £1,136. That's a lot of money but is a vast improvement on the original quotations and the garden will hopefully be maintenance free. I'm hoping that this will make my DH more relaxed.
Auntieflo I'll watch out for hot grass lol. Thanks for the tip ?
NannaandGrampy I'm longing to hoover my grass lol.
Shysal there will be a join so I'll ask them to make sure that it's given special attention. It's great to have this awareness in advance so thanks.
Gagagran I hope ours turns out as successful as yours is - after five years. That's really encouraging. We too have gone for a darker colour (several samples arrived).
GrannySue — I've attached a photo of the grass being replaced. This photo was taken a year or two ago and the grass now bears no resemblance to the photo. I think you'll maybe see why we want grass as opposed to a patio although we did think of that at one point. ANYTHING to make it maintenance free for my DH.
If you'd like, I'll upload a photo when it's done. Either that or I'll come back for a good old moan 'cause it's going wrong ?